I've decided to end things

[SuGaRCoAteDPoiSOn]

but I don't know how to do it.

the scales have fallen from my eyes and I've realised that my OH is a lazy, insensitive, selfish wanker and shall ever be thus.
We don't talk, have sex or do anything together anymore, I can't remember the last time we went out and it's not like I have small babies and babysitters are an issue. I've never met his family or friends and we've been together over 2 years and sometimes I feel as tho he's ashamed of me or somethng.

problem is, I know he wont leave without a fight and it's going to be hellish.. he'll make things as difficult as possible and be as nasty as possible and I just don't feel like I can handle that.

What's the problem - do you share a house or something? can't you just pack your bags and go?

yes it will be horrible but only for a very little while - then it will be FANTASTIC!

GO for it girl

Think on it some more in the morning.

Boring, but very good advice

it's my house but it will be very difficult to make him leave. He's liable to smash the house up and shout the street down and generally fight against it as much as poss.

I'm not worried about being on my own, just the bullshit that's going to have to happen to get me there, if that makes sense?

Thanks rabble but I've been feeling like this for a long time, and I spose I had my epiphany last night an today with things he's said and done.

He has put the last straw on the bale that broke the camel's back :/

Change the locks while he's out and have burly friends on hand then. If he starts smashing things, call the police.

If it's over, it's over. You will have ONE very bad day and then things will get better.

I've got you now, Sugar. Like the other posters have said, and you know you know , ride this out. Shut the doors, call the police if you have to, and wait for it to end.

Just a slight concern though, and hope you don't mind me asking ... but has he used physical violence against you?

No, he's not been violent to me, but he has pretty much demolished the house with his outbursts and I've had enough.. it took me years to get the house how I liked it with a lot of hard work and saving cos I did it on my own and for him to just come in and trash it is really unacceptable.

The only time he hurt me physically was when he threw a bunch of keys and it bounced off the wall and hit my hand leaving me with bruised, swollen fingers.

I've just told him to sort his stuff out so I can decorate the bedroom over the weekend and he's got huffy about even that small effort.. which has confirmed what I know - I'm doing the right thing.

Definately sounds like you're doing the right thing.

Like whomovedmychocolate said, change the locks while he's out, pack all his stuff and leave it outside if you think he's going to kick off and have an outburst!

Either that or arrange to meat him somewhere public like a cafe, have the locks changed then meat him and tell him it's over etc. he might be more willing to listen to your explanation if you're in public?

meet even!

all good suggestions, going to have to think about how to play this really. It's going to have to wait tho because I've got a particularly nasty flare-up of otitis wotsit at the mo and it's agony.. as well as me looking like the elephant man and I just don't feel up to the battle just now.

I think he senses that something is wrong because he's kind of skirting round me and being very quiet most of the time.

Well, just keep us posted. If you need any help, just say the word.