V card to coworker yay or nay

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I work in a very relaxed, informal environment. Everybody in their 20's-30's.
There is a kind, super sweet guy in my team who always has a nice word for everybody.

Today he asked me how l am cards I am receiving tomorrow. I laughed at the question (I dont have a fan club! lol). So I asked him back in a joking way how many are you receiving!? as implying it would be a ton. He said "fat zero".

Now, he is a very sweet guy and I would like to leave a card in his desk. Should I? I can make it impersonal or give a hint. Or make it friendly and not romantic. I like the guy but he is 26 and I am a 34 divorced mother of 2 so I know nothing there. Just he has asked me if he could give me a hug on 2 occasions when my ex was been a jerk (had to take time off work for lawyers) and I just feel like showing some appreciation tomorrow.

Very thoughtful of him to get you goodies to share with kids. Nice to have someone to remind you there are good guys out there post divorce and that female to male interaction could be the boost you need :)

Aw he sounds like a lovely guy!

v-reg is virginity! Maybe in your shoes I'd have left one chocolate on a post it note with a heart drawn on it but not a card, a card is too big a statement!? for a coward like me

I don’t think this story’s over

Yes it's so exciting isn't it! I'd say he is definitely interested x

Ooohhhh, this is so lovely.........

I am starting to like this guy but he is too young and we work together :(

There is this intern who is swooning over him too. She "checks his muscles" lol (she is 19 or 20), comments on his clothes, his gray hairs, and writes to him and flirts with him all the time. I think she has a crush on him.

That is probably what has made me act a little

I have told him I like his new beard and he said he was not sure about it, should he keep it or shave it. I said that I am a sucker for beards and he looks very handsome with it, so he said he will keep it.

There is an afterwork event today, and although I need to leave early to do school pickup I asked him if he is going. He also needs to leave early (pickup his nephews) but will go if I go

They are just small things. He is lovely with everybody, men and women. And I don't see him uncomfortable with this touchy feely intern.

I don't know if I should say anything to him at all or just keep things as they are. I would like to know that he actually likes me hahaha but of course, I don't have anything to go for and don't want to make a fool of myself.

I wouldn't write it off for either of those reasons. My parents worked together, desks right next to each other. My mother is 8 years older. Their 30th wedding anniversary is on monday.

My Husband and I work for the same company too. We married last year after 2 years together. He's 10 years older than me and has 8 year old.

If he likes you go for it :)

I totally thought you meant your virginity until I started reading!

I would go for it, just because he’s younger than you doesn’t mean it won’t work. Are you attracted to him?

Age is the only "but". He is a 26 years old single guy. I am a 35 years old single mom of two kids. It makes me think he is just a kid

I think he is mature though and he babysits his nephews often, who are about the same age as my kids. We actually talk a lot about the kids. After posting here I told him we should plan a playdate sometime and we also went for coffee instead of the work drinks. It was just 15 minutes, but nice enough. He asked me about my plans for the weekend and I said I didn´t have the kids, so pretty open. Somehow I think he proposed to go to the movies... and I said goodbye with a "if you want to do something just let me know"

I guess tomorrow mid-morning I will propose a movie/time? "What do you think of this movie? It is playing at 6pm at this cinema" kind of message

And go out, no pressure. I don´t know if he likes me as more than a friend, so I guess go out, repeat, and see how it goes :) My first real "maybe" after divorce 2.5 years ago I don´t do OLD, I just don´t have the time or energy. And two guys asked me out before but I was not attracted to them.

I don´t want to friend zone him . That´s my goal for tomorrow. I am used to push men away haha (I mean my behaviour, not that I have herds of candidates). Tricky things: we work together, although I am looking elsewhere anyway and the cousin he lives with, is one of our managers (weird). We work in the same team, and although he is junior and I am senior, I am not his manager, just colleagues.

From what you say I think he seems interested as much as you are. I hope you can get to the pictures today and I hope you have a lovely time. Please let us know how it goes. I’ve been following since Valentine’s Day 😊

I sent him a message asking if we were still on for a movie. The conversation was more relaxed/casual than at the office and I believe a little bit flirty. We are meeting in a couple of hours

What, tonight?! I like your confidence! Hope it goes well, he really seems to like you :)

How exciting! I’m guessing you’re not in the Uk then. Hope it goes well

Awwww he is the sweetest guy ever. We went to the movies, then tea and he drove me back home. We talked lots more in the parked car and I tried to subtly enquire about women and love. After getting "I will know when I meet her" and asking about the intern "she is too young. in my culture, 7 years is a big gap" I decided to take the bull by the horns

I told him I like him!! He was so shy and nervous I had to hold his hand. He told me he is "new to this" and he didnt know how to proceed. I think he means he didn't have a girlfriend before He told me he likes me too and that I am beautiful oh how I needed that!

I gave him a goodnight kiss in the cheek and we hugged. He didnt try to kiss me or get invited inside. He is the kind of man who opens the car door for me

Let's see how it goes from here... I told him ball is in her court

I am in north America @armygirl We met at 7 and now back home at 1.

Love this thread, keep us updated op! I hope this works out for you

You seem quite relaxed with each other as people. If he hasn't had a proper girlfriend before and there's a work connection he might feel hesitant about how to approach this, also might see you as being the more mature, confident one.

Sounds good though, enjoy :)

He sounds really lovely. Well done you for being confident enough to go for it. You’ve got nothing to lose. It’s so exciting

Oh my gosh, I haven't eaten in 2 days I am back to the office today (we haven't talked after Saturday) and I can't keep it together. Can't control the stupid smile and my nerves have shrank my stomach.
I still don't know what he thinks exactly. Hopefully he talks to me today or I will be on a express diet!

Yay! He sent me a message maybe scared that I would get to the office before he told me he likes someone else! Fucking lucky other girl.

At least I hope it is good news for my stomach

He’s told you he likes someone else?? I’m confused

Yes, he apologized for been so nervous and not making sense. He means what he said: I am beautiful and smart and he likes my personality but doesn't think we could work out. And he likes someone else so can't give us a try.

He sounds like a lovely guy and it's good that he has been upfront and honest with you. I hope you still keep your friendship

Yes, he is awesome. Of course I want to be friends with him and he has asked me the same and not to feel awkward.
We are trying today hehe (to not be awkward). I am not going to deny I am a little bit sad/disappointed. There are not many men like him and I want one of those for myself I guess it is time to expand my circles but with two little ones time is very scarce. Plus I am not into dating strangers off the internet so I limit myself a lot. In any case, I am back in thr game and trying

Aw he sounds lovely, I’m really glad he was honest with you. and well done you for going for it 😊