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Genital warts...Sigh...

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SanFran1983 · 13/02/2018 09:04

I discovered a small genital wart and I went to the sexual health clinic yesterday for cryotherapy...
I have just started a new relationship and feel I'm ready for sex but he doesn't know anything about this wonderful wart...
Am I still contagious now it has been treated? I am told the virus lives in your body for life.....When is it safe to have sex?

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RowenaDedalus · 13/02/2018 09:07

You can have sex when the wart is not there. They are most contagious when they are present. But you will have to tell your partner about it before you have sex as he could catch it even when you don't have any wart symptoms.

category12 · 13/02/2018 09:07

Didn't you ask these questions at the clinic?

Dancingfairy · 13/02/2018 09:08

I think your going to have to tell him if it lives with you for life as there is a possibility he can catch it. Sorry I've never had them but I'm sure you could google it.

Jayne35 · 13/02/2018 09:11

No sex until it's completely gone.

I had one in my early 20s which was treated and I have never had one since (over 20 years). Ensure you keep up to date with smears as there is a link between warts (HPV) and cervical cancer.

Armygirl · 13/02/2018 14:07

The majority of us will have come into contact with the wart virus. Not everyone will develop warts however. You can’t get rid of the virus but you can get rid of the warts. As you’ve only got one, hopefully it will go soon. But yes I think it’s important to be honest and tell him. As you were at the clinic anyway did you get a full screen done? Think it’s pretty standard practice to get a STI screen before having sex in a new relationship. For both of you!

G120810 · 13/02/2018 17:54

I can't imagine having to tell new partner this I don't think I would

Dancingfairy · 13/02/2018 21:53

Well that's really selfish G120810. Hope you never meet anyone with a life long std and they decide to hide it from you. People have a right to know.

Pregnantandfierce · 13/02/2018 22:01

You should absolutely tell your partner. My ex caught genital warts whilst cheating on me (karma) and tried to hide it. Thankfully he never transmitted the virus to me but yoy ought to let your dp and hopefully they will be understanding.

AuntMatilda · 13/02/2018 22:08

The body does actually rid itself of the virus eventually. If It's been frozen I think avoid sex until It's gone and you'll be okay. Cryogenics actually help the body get rid of the virus.

I've studied the crap out of all this stuff.

000bourneFarm · 13/02/2018 22:10

Not only should you disclose this, but they too and you may want to do a full STD check together and be open with the results.

AuntMatilda · 13/02/2018 22:12

I agree with bourne and have done this in past relationships but it's not possible to test for warts.

Sliceofspice · 13/02/2018 22:15

Most of us will be exposed to the virus. Some of us develop warts and some don't. It's not a huge deal.
However, you want to avoid passing it on until your body rids itself of the virus, you will still be contagious after its gone for a while. I wouldn't say anything, like I say it not a huge deal and he may not develop anything anyway,however you owe it to him to use condoms for the next 12 months at least.

Applecrumble79 · 13/02/2018 22:16

I wouldn’t tell. How did u catch it, no one told u!!
I would definitely wait until the wart has gone and probably use condoms for a little while afterwards.

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SpitefulMidLifeAnimal · 13/02/2018 22:22

If you have sexual contact with someone, knowing you have an STD of any type but you don't inform that person, does this mean they haven't given informed consent?

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Sallystyle · 13/02/2018 23:10

I think your going to have to tell him if it lives with you for life

In many cases, the virus does go eventually.

Ensure you keep up to date with smears as there is a link between warts (HPV) and cervical cancer.

The HPV strain that causes warts does not cause cancer.

I was a carrier but never had the warts myself. I was checked very regularly as I was pregnant when my ex husband got them. He was a virgin before he met me.

My current husband never got them and after 18 years I assume my body had rid itself of the virus.

Jayne35 · 14/02/2018 09:53

Ensure you keep up to date with smears as there is a link between warts (HPV) and cervical cancer.

The HPV strain that causes warts does not cause cancer.

Then I stand corrected U2 but I have had both warts and treatment for pre-cancerous cells, separate issues then obviously but, regardless regular smears are still essential.

Sliceofspice · 14/02/2018 18:26

What U2hastheedge says is spot on. STDs are ridiculously common and if we don't have symptoms many of us are carriers. In regards to getting checked out further etc, don't bother unless you're worried you may have something else. An ex of mine and myself went to to GUM clinic to get checked out together whilst at uni before we abandoned condoms and I went on the pill. Very sensible! All was fine.
4 months later he gave me herpes.
He didn't have any symptoms whatsoever and was merely a carrier.
Been with my husband for 6 years now. He has not caught anything, or atleast has had no symptoms. People hear the word STD and start flapping. There is no need for it, they are so very very common. I told my husband about it as soon as I realised we were serious, he wasn't bothered in the slightest, not nearly as bothered about it as I was.

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