DP has just lost his job....

[wildwoman]

I don't know how to help him, he had tears in his eyes wen he told me and I just want to cuddle him. He has taken the DC out for a walk so I have snuck on here to see if anyone has any advice on how I can make him feel better. The financial implications really haven't sunk in for me yet.

Oh, I'm so sorry Wildwoman, it's horrid, isn't it. Happens a lot though - dh has been redundant twice and me once. You will get through it, honest.

Thank you edam, I know we will. Sod's law is that I only quit work to be a SAHM a few months ago.

Bugger! Sorry to hear that. Is it going to be hard for him to find something else?

I've been through it myself and the only advice I can give you is be very flexible, ask your DP to consider moving sideways in his industry, or doing something completely differently.

In a few years this will just be a memory (I know that won't sound helpful now but hang on to hope, you will get through it).

Oh Im sorry this happened to my dp when I was pregnant with ds. He was lucky as he got another job almost straight away but it was very stressful. Can you go on some jobsites such as www.gojobsite.co.uk and see what's available in his field of work and save them to your favourites so he can look at them when he feels like?

Thank you, I am off to have a look at some sites now. It is a little complicated as he was basically "let go" becuase they didn't think he was suited to the job (he was still in the probation period of a new job) It's the field he's been in forever basically so he is feeling a bit lost.

Oh dear - that happens more often than you think you know. Well the good news is that he's experienced. Get in touch with agencies in his field and pick two that are the best of the bunch, and get him to go see them. He needs to phone them and sell his skills.

Experienced folk are hard to find and often recruitment consultants will phone clients and dangle a suddenly available expert at them and they snap them up.

That's a good point, I will use that, they are back so I had better go or he'll know exactly what I've been talking about , thanks for the advice.