Hi guys! I met this girl through a mutual colleague, we were managers in the same office though different departments, and got close fast. She’s lovely and I really enjoyed our friendship for about a year until she started to act strangely (turning up places I was like gigs or galleries (I had posted on social media that I was going) but blanking me, copying my hair/clothes/shoes/lifestyle choices but then making fun of me/being hurtful about these exact things, critical of my work, relationship with DH, friends and views of the future)... at first it was confusing but be got super crazy, she copied my plans to TTC, got the same tattoo as me (even though mine had a complex meaning) and turned up to my office with a fake injury saying she had fainted, refusing to tell me if she was ill or not then being cryptic about illness in texts and photos taken from a hospital window ...
After we went to a mutual friends party and she got so drunk she had to be taken home by another mutual friend (her husband was travelling at the time), then texted me a barrage of mean, drunken texts, I thought it time to take a step back from our friendship and give her some space. I eventually moved away for a year to take a second course and came back to the same company we both work at, she had also taken a few months out to travel and is now back. When we met again we got along great and we chat whenever we see eachother, I miss her and wonder if rekindling our friendship is a good or bad idea. Not only that
I feel bad for “ghosting her” though I know the reasons were too complex and crazy sounding, and potentially hurtful- to explain. I forgot to mention: I’m currently in my 3rd trimester of
Pregnancy and she has just announced hers (she is 8 weeks).