Yesterday I found out my husband has been lying to me. He’s spent our entire saving on cocaine and gambling. He says it’s being going on for years yet I have been completely unaware. I feel like such an idiot as I genuinely had no idea. Last night I gave him the option of moving to his mothers (100 Miles away), or me and our children will move in with my parents (very close) while we decide what to do.
A bit of background, years ago (pre-children) we went through a similar thing where he spent a huge amount on online games and weed. I gave him an ultimatum. He went to the GP and asked for counselling, and I really believed he had changed. A couple of weeks ago I thought he was acting differently and wondered if he’d started smoking weed again, but really wasn’t expecting it to be anything like coke or gambling.
Now morning is here I don’t know what to do. Am I right asking him to leave or should stay together while he works through this? If he moves in with his parents then he won’t see the children often and I’m terrified of hurting them too. As I said earlier, I could move in with my parents temporarily, but it wouldn’t be ideal as it would mean the kids and me sleeping in one room on camp beds... plus I don’t really want to admit to them how bad things are.