Ok I'm going to get straight to the point. I'm in my early 50s. Utterly useless socially, as will become evident. Single for 12 years. Long term relationship ended cos ex cheated recurrently. Have shut off from relationships as i really dont want to put myself in that position ever again. So i recently had a minor but multi-car accident, it was a very early, wet, dark morning on the motorway. One of the people involved was a 33 year old guy. Due to the odd circumstances of the accident, insurance stuff, bit of police info, with swapped details ive had to speak to and text this guy. Anyway this guy texts me again the other night about some info re the accident and ends up asking me if i work shifts.( I was in my uniform on way to work at time of the accident) I thought this was odd, i answered and because i was a little horrified that he was now in personal territory, i subtly put in i was 52 as part of my answer to ward him off. I'm very realistic about my looks age etc so at this stage im laughing to myself as I knew he was young. Anyway he then goes on to ask if I like coffee, if i have a boyfriend, married or have kids. (none ) I say im happy single, ex is happy, im happy. All of this isn't in one text but over the course of the conversation . Honestly im not taking it seriously starting off by agreeing to the coffee but not for a week or so cos I thought he would just forget about it . I jokingly said can i bring my 4 kids along as i havent got a babysitter. This was my way of getting him to run for the hills and then ask why wasnt he out on a Friday night looking for Mrs right. He then goes on to say he was really just being friendly re the coffee , it was very normal for him in his work ( he is a civil engineer ) ( he was in a boiler suit of sorts when we had the crash) and that he was married and he would understand if i didn't want to go. So I'm now thinking he IS running for the hills. So i said I was embarressed ( I wasnt) and that I wouldn't meet for coffee as I can't mess with the sisterhood. But to take care and goodbye . Or so i thought ...then he says 'dont go all weird on me you say youre happy but I'm not so sure hence the coffee'. He then tells me to still meet him as I might enjoy it and take it from there' ! Im weirded out by the whole thing especially his observation about my happiness. Believe me I have absolutely no romantic interest here. Even if he were single never in a month of Sunday's would I go out with a 33 year old. God it's bad enough looking at my own wrinkles without having an audience ! But I'm curious what he has seen in me that makes me be seen as unhappy. I dont walk around grumpy or maudlin . I dont tell anyone about me or how i really feel about things. I'm not a saddo and would hate being pitied. I've thought maybe this guy is trying to speak to me personally about the crash as I was the innocent one in the accident.
Any thoughts would be welcome. Honestly im not completely bonkers.