I don't know where to turn

[UNHAPPYLIFE]

I don't need to write my story
Because I know everyone will say my wife is abusing me
Deep down I know this too.
I just don't know how to get out of this situation I'm in
No one can help me
I got myself in this mess I have to get my self out
I'm just having a rant on here
Letting off steam
Been used as a verbal punch bag all weekend
Which is fine I'm use to it
It was the new physical violence that shocked me tbh
Obviously I pushed her to it
Coz I'm just a "nightmare" to live with

Anyways rant over
Tomorrow I paint my smile on

Sorry to hear this, lots of advice and support here

I've just come out of a very unhealthy verbal abusive relationship trying to re build my life
It's early days.... i am proof it can be done

Keep talking on here x

Sorry to hear this fruity
I hope your ok xx

Sounds a horrid way to live op. Why can't you get out?

That's no way to live, op. You need to get away from all this, nobody deserves to be treated like this. Do you have anywhere you could go?

why can't you leave?

These people may be able to help you. www.mankind.org.uk/

OK, whether you're a man or a woman, people on here will listen and advise you, and guide you to help.

OP not OK - sorry about that typo

I got myself in this mess I have to get my self out

No. I watched my sister stay in a miserable relationship, wasting 3 years of her life. Every time I asked her if she was happy, what she wanted to do, she would say this, like a parrot.

Sometimes we need a little help to get out of a situation. And there is nothing wrong with asking for help. Swallow your pride. Do you have anyone in real life you can talk to?

No-one should have to put up with being abused, emotionally and definitely not physically!

Why do you let her do this? Why are you allowing it?

Worldworstcook I'm not sure making the op feel any more shit will help.
No one allows someone to abuse them. Do you have any idea how it feels to love hate and fear someone all at that same time.
Op the abuse you are suffering is destroying your esteem, your fight, your ability to defend yourself. I know this makes it so hard to find the strength to leave.
Do you have children? What is your financial situation. Do you own your property or do you rent, is your name on the tenancy/mortgage.
How you're living is so very sad and is damaging you. When was the last time you were told you deserved better, you do you know. I'm a stranger online and even I know that no one deserves what you are living through.

Um what to you mean verbal punch bag, what violence did she use and what circumstances. Your post is kind of throwaway comments giving little info so nobody can really say anything but give sympathy and advise you to seek assistance.

Of course you didn’t drive her to it. Her inability to control herself is her own problem not yours and of course you’re not stuck with it.

Why can't you leave?
Please look up thread at the link to Menkind.
They can help you.
If it was physical violence and you have marks or bruising, please get photo's and report the police.
Do you have any other family nearby?
Would they help to support you leaving.
You cannot and absolutely should NOT stay in an abusive relationship.

Just to clarify I'm a woman
In a same sex marriage

It's difficult to explain n I'm worried someone figures out who I am

My family live nearly two hours away

I don't drive

My whole family think that the sun shines out of her n she's the best thing to ever happen to me

Dw blackmailing me

Womens Aid can help you then.
Please contact them and arrange an exit plan.
0808 2000 247
The number will not appear on any bills.
Are there children involved?

Also if she is blackmailing you please call 101 and discuss it with the police.
You don't have to give any names but you can see where you would stand if she were to follow through with the threat.
Blackmailing is illegal.

How are you op?

I've left my abusive boyfriend and you can do the same

I promise you

I am so glad I have left
I am living at my mums in a suitcase with me and my lo leaving behind my abusive partner at the family home I still have to move from

I am no way through this yet but I promise you the 1st step is the worse
I feel like I'm on a treadmill and I have to keep moving and not look back

Sorry you are going through this
But once you start to accept what's happening to you it's easier to digest

I'm not leaving my house without my stuff
I've worked all my life for my stuff
N yeah to people it's stuff but it's my stuff

I have to stick this out
Dw is receiving some money in 3weeks
I'm going to get her to put it in my bank
All money bills come from my bank
Then
I'm going to plan my escape
I'm gonna get a house set up at my home town
I've collected text messages photos videos
Of her admitting to hitting me calling me everything
I've hid it in the cloud
I'm going to transfer money to family
Then I'm leaving her with all this evidence

With my belongings
Where she doesn't know I am
With money

Am I bad?

If I don't do it like this
I loose everything

Do it and don't look back her behaviour is always ure fault same excuse never accept what they do is there fault take the money and run good luck

Did you post about this situation before? Are you the OP with Bi Polar?

No I've not posted this before

I don't have bi-polar

That's a good plan OP.
But don't put yourself in any danger unnecessarily.
You sound much clearer about what is going to happen and when.
Try to act as you normally would until the time comes to escape.
Well done on getting a plan together.

It's good that you have a plan. It will help you to focus on going through with it.
Is it realistic that dw will put the money in your account?