Difficult relationship with mother

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My DM had severe depression when I was growing up. There was no money issues but I was neglected. She got better in my late teens but I left home for university.

One issue is that my mother refuses to talk about the neglect. If I ever bring anything up, she will get all teary and say that she didn't know or that it was not her fault that she was ill.

I went NC with her for about a year in my early 20s. She was miserable apparently. She would listen in when I called my dad. Eventually we started a relationship again. I just avoid to bring up the past issues.

I still hurt.

People tell me to just move on... and I really try. However there are things which just bring up the past. I think maybe I need to speak to a psychologist to help me deal with the situation. How can I get the help I need?

You've just admitted she had severe depression .Im sure I read somewhere that that is an illness;some people even die from it.
Yet ,you want to remind her what a shit mother she was while knowing she has fragile mental health.

She already knows.Move on and be the better person.You can be there for her ,even though she wasn't well enough to be there for you.