william was born on a saturday and i stayed in hospital for 4 days. the thing i was looking forward to most was the next saturday spending a full day together with mike and william and taking it easy, maybe going somewhere for lunch maybe for a walk, just to be together as a family for the first time.
anyway on the friday night as we were having our tea i asked what he fancied doing on saturday. he turned round to me and said he's going to see molly (his daughter, usually goes and picks her up on sundays only she's in a phase where she doesnt want to come with her dad so he's going there instead) i was gutted and asked him why and why he didnt tell me before (he knew on the sunday after wiliam was born) he said he didnt want to tell me cos he knew how i'd react. i begged him not to go and said i was looking forward to this all week but he still went. i'm still upset that we never got that first day together as a family. i know molly is his family too but i had just had a baby and all i wanted was to enjoy him with my partner. we never got that and i feel like i've been robbed.
when i was pregnant we were supposed to be going to edinburgh for new year as a last long weekend away just the two of us. of course as soon as sarah (mollys mum) turned round to him and said what about molly, and waht if she would have wanted to come, and its over a weekend when you would have her etc it led to us not going. sarah saying what she said would have been halfway reasonable if she would make a fucking effort for molly to go see her dad but mollys got her wrapped round her little finger she just whimpers a bit and sarah gives in to her every wish.
mike says that himself but yet he still goes and sees her every saturday and sunday. i feel like the more he goes the more sarah thinks why should she make an effort if he's coming anyway.
on saturday before mothers day i asked mike what we were doing on mothers day and he said im going to see molly.
he did go even though he knew i wanted him not to. when he came back he gave me a card and some flowersw and went to sleep the rest of the day. (he was tired cos he had to get up to see molly. he gets up for her but then couldnt even stay awake for my first mothers day.) so i spent most of the day crying too.
he is almost perfect in every other way but it just hurts me so much that he's so obsessed with molly (which i can understand)but what i cant understand is that he ignores my wishes he doesnt even realize how much this hurts me every time he goes because i cant say anything to him anymore cos he always avoids the subject.
i dont even get a day where i can have a bath in peace or a bit of a lie in without william cos mikes off in the morning both days he's off work to see molly.
i've never had anything against molly and couldnt wait to meet her the first time two years ago but now that mikes going there sat and sun and not respecting my wishes he's making me feel resentful towards her and jealous i know this sounds silly she's his daughter but its the way he's behaving. its just getting worse all the time.
I have always said to mike from when we started going out that i dont mind him having or seeing his daughter just as long as its not every weekend. my sisters husband has a daughter who came every weekend and it put a strain on their relationship. so when i started going out with him myh sister told me to make sure that would never happen and mike agreed but now it has. i wouldnt mind her staying over for a full weekend (friday to sunday or even monday morning and take her to shcool once she's older ) but then it would have to be every other weekend so we get some time together too. if its every weekend then only sundays so we still get saturdays to do things. he agreed with what i've just said when we first talked about it.
the thing that annoys me most is that all this started the weekend after william was born....
thank you for listening i just dont know what to do anymore