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Bemyselfi · 11/02/2018 16:27

Hi I am new to this site and hope I can get some answers to my issue.
I have been with my partner for 9yrs.he has been very ill and got through that. Then it starts.. He moans about my sons... What they do..they are adults by the way, he will not say it but I know he is not keen on them at all. Then the Christmas before, on the big day, he started saying he wanted to hit then, called them horrible names... Which I will never forget or forgive him for. Moving on its his birthday and I called him a bloody idiot... Then it went down hill... He plays mind games and tries to make me the bad one.... He twists things... I have said sorry so many times.. I gave up.... We get home and it happens again... I asked him to go... I have been there for him now I feel I want out....is that just me being selfish or is it time for him to go.... My friend has mentioned that he does belittle me in front of people... And I can't go or do anything u less he says the 'oh right'.in such h away I don't do anything.. I am not afraid of being alone just want to know if I am doing the right thing.

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Shoxfordian · 11/02/2018 16:30

If you're planning to break up then yes you're doing the right thing

lookingforthedroids · 11/02/2018 16:33

No, you're not being selfish, if you aren't happy in the relationship then you are right, it is time to think about ending it.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 11/02/2018 16:33

Its time for him to go; you're being verbally belittled and abused by him. You've simply been used by him throughout.

I would think your adult children do not like him either and for good reason.

Please enrol yourself going forward on to the Freedom Programme by Womens Aid as such verbally abusive men can take a long time to recover from.

Sn0tnose · 11/02/2018 16:38

If you feel that you want out, then that is the end of it. There's nothing else to consider. You absolutely do not have to stay with someone just because they've said 'sorry'.💐

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