What is your favourite thing about marriage

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Hey,

I'm nearly married and loving it ,

I think my favourite part of being married is that I have a team mate someone who has my back and together we are even stronger.

What's yours ??

Being married is lovely. Afterr 28 years I still feel loved, safe and warm. We look out for each other. Today he asked me how I was feeling and if I was ok. I made him a honey and lemon drink because he has man flu.

I set out with the same sentiments as you OP and believed in marriage but what I've since learned is that no two people think the same. Sad but true.

I'd always thought that we'd properly committed to each other when we had children, but getting married (youngest by then 5) did feel different. Knowing that we were going to keep on being there for each other. My husband is going through some stuff at work at the moment, I've been telling him all the good stuff about what he does, but colleagues have too, and tonight he said that (although he appreciated it from me) hearing the good things from colleagues was different because "I am him".

Surely being married is the same as being in a LTR with children?
Don't those in a ltr cuddle, have in jokes,
support each other?
I can't see what changes when you marry?

The only reason I would want to get married is for security
My dc have my surname because I wasn't married to their dad
I had a disagreement with a woman who told me it was disgraceful that my dc didn't have their fathers surname, she couldn't explain why though 🤔

Well there are some legal differences. I like being married because of my husband. I wouldn't want to be married to anybody else.

Legal differences of course but relationship differences?
Do you feel closer to your husband because you're married?

Yes.

Ok thanks Rosemary 😂

Some of messages are so nice to read.
For me it's looking forward to the future and making memories together. Also knowing that I've found someone who really loves me and who I love equally.

I have plenty of people to do things with but l like being married because l have someone to do nothing with. Just hang oyt at home and relax in front of the fire. Together 33 years and appreciate that company ..that comfortable way of being together.

It’s having someone who loves and values me more than I do for myself. He’s makes me a better version of myself because I’m better with him. More than that I get a great deal of satisfaction knowing I do the same for him. We’re better people for being together.

I blew a tyre on a dark road last week. My husband came to change my wheel. That is about it ....

I also love when people are surprised that I'm married because I'm 24 now. We married when I was 22.

Genuine question, what's enjoyable about that? It seems people are shocked and maybe judgmental you married so young. What is nice about the surprise in other people's reactions?

This thread has kinda shown me that other than the legal bits like last names and being Mrs etc, the vast majority of the replies are exactly what you get from a great relationship without marriage. I love that in this day and age there's the freedom to have long term serious relationships without the pressure of marriage :)

Leaving for work in the morning.

He brings me a cup of tea in bed every morning.
We laugh so much even in intimate times.
Making new memories
Being able to tell him anything and everything
Sharing the love for our children
He looks after me
He won't let anyone be nasty to me
We have had to work hard at times during our marriage.
We have been married almost 22 years.

Marriage was good for me as I learnt that for most women it is a con where they inevitably end up doing most of the donkeywork.
It opened my eyes to the gender inequalities that materialise when kids come along.
It taught me not to rely on a man and that I am a complete, capable person on my own.
Currently in the process of divorce and very happy with that.

The fact that when I decide I want to kill him, I just have to look at one of our wedding photos and remember how much I love him.

It's saved his life multiple times I'm sure

I think there's no difference between long term relationships and marriages as long as you're both the same nationality.

Even with legal label of marriage we've still had to jump through many immigration hoops in both our countries. Without marriage a long term relationship would have been impossible.

So in terms of relationship the best thing is having a best friend that I can trust fully. But personally the best thing about actual marriage for me has been the legal right to have my children's father in my country or have the right to live in his.

I’ve came on looking for the list of things and none of them seem applicable to me/us.

I have always questioned my relationships and in particular my marriage to DH even though it’s been 10 years (that stems from my own childhood issues). I’d really like to know what it’s suppose to be like so I can compare, sad really but I’ve no idea!

He makes dinner on a Saturday night
Pours me a drink
He’s a good worker
Shares childcare quite evenly
Kisses me every day when he gets home/leaves.
But we don’t have much in common and I feel strange about that.

Been together 10 years, married for 2 with second kiddy on the way.

There are lots of silly things I could say like makes me a cuppa just the way I want it but honestly I’d say the best bit about marriage was when I was sick in my first pregnancy and needed a section, knowing he would be there to hold my hand and follow my every crazy instruction about not leaving the baby etc. The knowledge that if anything was to happen that he would know what to do was a weight lifted off my shoulders and he took that burden. Couldn’t do it without him.

He’s my best friend, lover, debate partner and food tester all rolled into one.

This thread has kinda shown me that other than the legal bits like last names and being Mrs etc, the vast majority of the replies are exactly what you get from a great relationship without marriage

I’m all in favour of the legal protections and advantages of married but don’t understand what you’d thought would be different about a marriage?

Feeling like a strong family unit e.g same name etc.

There is an article on BBC website today about loneliness and the fact that it is potentially a killer.
On the other hand you don't have to be married to have the benefits of the following
"If you have got someone who loves you, someone you can talk to if you have got a problem, that is a more powerful predictor of whether you will be alive in 10 years' time, more than almost any other factor, certainly more than smoking."
I agree with other posters, it is so comforting to have someone to talk to, who knows you as well as you know yourself, who cares and shares important and unimportant stuff. Every day I am grateful for my lovely husband. I always feel lucky to have him even after 40 odd years.

I loved being single, never saw myself being married. My beloved grandfather told me often that the happiest women he knew never married and I guess that stuck.

Met DH and he really wanted to get married. I didn't think it would make a lot of difference so agreed.

What I love about being married is that we both have to make it work. Neither of us can just walk away when we're pissed off with each other. There is something very secure about knowing we have that legal agreement that we're in it for the long term. I know he'll support me unconditionally. I do believe that if I committed some heinous crime he'd be there for me. I'm a lot more judgemental, but recognise my part of the deal is to be there for him. He does make me a better person.

I think you have to qualify it - the question is "What is your favourite thing about being married to the right person ?"