Double standards, yes or no?

[Shen0102]

This is the convo I've just had.. This is just a quick draft of how it went on whilst I was trying to make my point during the conversation we was having. I'm not gonna do word for word. Can someone illustrate if I was double standard or not?

Me: blah blah blah
OH: whatever you say
me: blah blah blah
OH: whatever you say
me: please stop saying that
OH: whatever you say
me: stop it it's rude
OH: whatever you say
me: fine I'm gonna do that to you next time you're trying to make a point if you think it's acceptable.
OH: blah blah blah
me: whatever you say
OH: oooh so you're allowed to say it but I'm not? that's double standards
me: I did warn you not to say it, how's that double standard ?

bump

... and I thought my Saturday night was bad.

He sounds really nasty.

How old are you both? Honestly how is your general relationship otherwise like? If this is a one off spat in an otherwise good relationship then write it off. If it's a sign of deeper things then you need to redress what you want from a relationship.

LTB

No not double standards because you pointed out that you would do it to illustrate a point. He sounds like a douche. I'd just stop talking to him if he carries on like that. You can't have a sensible conversation with someone like that. If he's worth bothering with then sit down and have a talk about it when you're both calm and point out to him that he's being rude and hindering adult communication between you. If he's otherwise an immature twat too, LTB.

The relationship is great and all is well. it was just the hiccup when he called my actions "Double standards". I tried to explain that it can't be as I had warned him beforehand, it feels like talking to a brick wall as we've both been drinking so I thought I'd just leave it. not sure he'll ever understand how it's not double standard though & part of me just wants him to get it. I don't want to get Into an argument about it at the same time .

I think you’re both really petty

Haven’t you got anything better to be posting about? I mean seriously, it’s saturday night, and these are your problems??

It really doens't matter what it was technically. It was actually just a shitty way to treat someone you love.

Not a double standard but definitely point scoring.

Great work on your part. You tried talking to him and explaining it was rude, he deliberately carried on so you demonstrated how it was rude and now hopefully it’ll stop.

Fingers crossed he’ll actislly start listening to your feelings and valuing them in future, if not this incident is the least of your worries. Who’d want to be with someone who doesn’t care how you feel ?