Dating for the sake of it

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How do you know when you are dating from a healthy place where you feel it would be nice to meet someone or from desperation, loneliness, and wanting to be loved.

Are you happy being alone, your life, the place you are now?
A friend once said to me you can only have a healthy relationship with another once you know how to have one with yourself. Once you get to that place where you know what your worth is someone else will see it too. That you need to be happy being single then you're ready.
I was like wtf is she talking about lol.
Omg I've realised over the last 2 years how acutely wise her statement was.
After a particularly bad (mentally abusive, controlling and physically abusive) relationship I've seen with utter clarity what she meant.
I don't want to date now, may be I will in the future, and I'm currently in therapy working out why I made such poor relationship choices.
But I am gradually getting to the place where I am realising my worth, how lucky someone would be to have me. I'm learning that I control my moods they don't rely on another person.
I'm getting to the point where I value my single life. I am basically making myself the best version of me I can be. But I'm doing this for me.
I'm working on my relationship I have with my family, friends, with myself.
I'm working on me my home, my career. I'm building healthy and firm boundaries with others.
Hell once I get there I may not even want to date lil but I know until I get there in definitely not ready for a relationship and therefore would not be getting into one for the right reasons. But that's just my experience/opinion/advice.

It’s tricky and I would like to know myself. I’m separated from STBX for over 18 months and the divorce is about to come through. He left me for ow. Lots of people said to wait with dating until I’m happily single. I’m not sure I’ll ever be though as I love being in a relationship and really miss having someone to share my life with. I get lonely at the weekend sometimes. I’ve got a career, a house, a few but very good friends. I’m getting happier overall again but ultimately I want a relationship. Is this the right place? Sorry I haven’t got any advice but I know how you feel.