This is a new relationship, we have only known each other a short while. We haven't had sex, and he hasn't had sex for quite some time, a year perhaps. He is 57 years old (I m 47).
We have been building up to intimacy. I had sent him a picture and he said that it really turned him on...so all good.
He was away for work and in a hotel. I sent him another picture (lingerie one) and he said it really really aroused him. To the extent that he fell asleep thinking of me and woke in the night incredibly aroused.
We aren't due to see each other for a while and due to this aren't in a position to have sex.
So my question is this, to all you lovely ladies...he got very aroused (so he said) and yet, despite all that (he said he felt very frustrated) he did not masturbate.
I asked him why not via email, and he said that it was because it was the wrong place! That it wasnt a comfortable hotel. He was alone, no one else to interrupt him, etc. So there was no concerns he could get seen.
And as far as I can tell, he still hasn't relieved himself. Still gets highly aroused when he sees my pics and does nothing. He knows we won't be having sex (so isn't saving himself) and I can't help but think this is odd.
I have had several (too many) relationships before and two of those were a bit like that and both had control issues...could either hold back or abstain or use sex as a kind of weapon. They didnt treat women well and had no respect for women.
I am not saying he is this, but I do wonder if this is a red flag (or I am over thinking!). Because it is normal to feel so horny that you have no choice! Otherwise it is very uncomfortable. And to masturbate is good.
Course it could be he is lying and the pics did not really arouse, hence didnt have the need for self relief but he seems very sincere and ardent.
I am a bit worried. He is ex military (have to say that, because been warned before about control issues with such men!).
What do you think? Worrying needlessly?