What to do?

[Screamingontheinside]

I’m going through a worrying time at the moment.
Quite a few years ago I was given a couple of rings by an Aunt. An old engagement ring of hers which she replaced for a new one and a emerald and gold one. I have never wore these rings because they don’t fit my fingers and they are not my type of style.
Over the last year or so I have thought about maybe selling them but haven’t because I’m not sure if this is a really disrespectful thing to do? I guess I’m scared of feeling a lot of guilt afterwards if I did. I should mention that this Aunt is still alive but we do not have a good relationship for various reasons and have had no contact since last year when she was awful with my son. No Christmas cards or Birthday cards which has never happened before.
Anyway my circumstances are changing and we have been given notice to leave our rented property (the landlord is moving back) after 3 years so now I am thinking of selling them or at least getting them valued to help with the cost of the move (deposit mainly as we won’t get ours back fully until after the move)
I would be grateful to here opinions on this, would it make me a bad person?

Sorry if I have posted this in the wrong section but wasn’t sure.

I don't think it would hurt to get them valued if they hold no sentimental value and you don't wear them anyway. But my worry would be that she would ask for them back!

I don't think selling them would make you a bad person at all.

Yes that has crossed my mind too. It has been about 10 years since they were given to me and she has never mentioned them since or ask to see them. Thanks for your reply.

If she looks for them, tell her were lost in the move.

However, gold may not be worth very much to sell by weight - don't get your hopes up too much about the value till you get an official figure.

I know, I’m not expecting a big amount but anything I guess would help. We were not expecting this move and are not really prepared financially.

I’d sell them. I can’t imagine you becoming close any time soon given the reason you fell out. You need the cash, you don’t want them and she will never know.

Well if you won't wear them, getting them valued is a good idea.
If you need the money for move but will get some back after the move, you could get something nice that you would wear with the money?
I don't know what's gone on with your Aunt but is there definitely no chance for any relationship in the future?

My aunt left me some valuable collectable items. I sold a few when times were hard -a house move also in fact!! Any relative worth their salt would rather you were on an even keel than have something valuable locked away I am sure.

Jewellers will value them lower if they're buying from you. Depends how quickly you need the money.

Thanks for all the advice so far. We have until the end of April to move so time is ticking. I don’t think reconciliation will happen, it’s completely broken down and if anything it’s abit of a relief. I know that sounds bad