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He on my mind all the time

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mpeters82 · 08/02/2018 22:16

Hi,

Back 2014 I met this guy on a dating site and we starting seeing each other. It was nothing serious. I knew the I score so did he.I was in a bad situation that I could not get out of.
We sometimes see each other each month hangout. He is such a funny guy we would talk about a lot of stuff.
So as time went by I started having feeling for him and even began falling for him as each time we saw each. I realized as I got jealous over something stupid. He and I were messaging then he sent wrong text meant for someone else.
So I told him on the site we met and it caused him to become distant. But I had something happen to me and told him. He was shocked but he was nice about it. I did tell him we could not see each like that no more but we did see each other after this. This time I did not want him to go. We never saw each other for awhile.
Again I was at this club had messaged him are you coming and he did come over after he finished work. He was standing next to me was quiet. Went upstairs to talk. I only said you look as he had hair cut. He was like it's only a hair cut. He was off still with me and killed the whole talk with we was not a couple. Which I did know that just me be me fell for the guy that did not want me.
So with that he left so did I felt like . He said what you doing and he dropped me home. Let's say he was upset atmosphere was bad. We did not see each other for awhile.
So then I remember things blew over. I went to see him and I remember asking him if he had a girlfriend. He had run his hand over his head and said how he met this woman. Quite funny but obviously I felt gutted. Then we left I said how happy I was for him. To me it was like goodbye. He gave me a hug and that was it.
We still message but then he blocked me and came off certain sites.
I have always thought of him and no guy never made me feel like him. Maybe because we were friends with benefits.
I started feeling like I was moving on from this. Let me call him guy A.
So I am chatting to guy B on the same site met guy A. We both never met but he messaging he was another funny guy. He was alright. Trying to ask me out so glad I said no. As one day he says to me I know someone who knows you and was thinking in my head who. Turns out he works with guy A. He would not say who he was but said he told me to stop winding you up and your a good woman. It did cross my mind it might be him but thought it can't be then he said his name. It turns out guy A caught him at work on phone talking to me. Guy A was guy B boss.
Thinks get a bit funny as I knew guy A had a girlfriend we not spoke in ages. But I kept talking to guy B. I know sounds crazy but to be connected to Guy A. Guy B wanted me to start seeing him said no.
So think it was not too long ago said let me stop speaking to guy B. He was honest saying he was not looking for anything serious. Left him to it.
He did keep telling me to contact guy A and I said no. Think he was winding me up. He knew how I felt for guy A.
Monday just walking home and I was too busy messaging on my phone. But a car caught my eye and then it slowed down and me and the guy just looked at each other and he waved at me and I waved back. Then after thought it's guy A.
So as I was telling my friend felt like an silly woman lol. Heart pounding just was like no way as suppose I thought he would never talk to me again. If he saw me he pretend he did not know me.
Then I get message from guy B who says this" guy b said he saw you today". I say yes etc. So you both talk about me then. Guy B said Guy A says to him I saw your friend so and so. I thought so me and Guy A not friends.
But guy b said to me you know how he funny as I got a bit like silly. Thought why Guy A tell guy b he saw me. Infact shocked he mentioned me at all.
So does GuyA see me as friend still?According to guyb he says good things about me. I know not chance of being together in that way. But can you go back to being friends? Guyb said text him. Tried explaining it's best I leave him to be happy. Told him I am so happy for him.
So like now like thinking am I doing right thing? I can't contact him him with the way I feel. I mean I was moving forward until monday. Feelings came bk hard. Need to get over this or I go crazy. Anyone been in this situation?

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Florallee · 08/02/2018 22:22

Yes, I have. You need to try and get over guy A,but not by communicating with Guy B.

Florallee · 08/02/2018 22:26

Hang on, have you ever met guy B..if not, I have a feeling that A is B

Guy A is pretending to be Guy B Hmm

Florallee · 08/02/2018 22:34

over-investing
Find Guy C. If they are two separate people; Guy B sounds like a shit stirrer and Guy A is off limits. If they are the same person, where to start? Confused

mpeters82 · 08/02/2018 23:13

I have not met guy B. Although he would like me to meet him. But this why Guy A confused me winding guy B up lol. Saying I saw YOUR friend. So me and guy A was not seeing each other or even friends.
Yes guy b a bit of stirrer.
I had thought that but he is his work colleague.
I know guy A moved on and to be honest did not think he would tell Guy b.
I mean guy A made more of big deal out of seeing me. But had to make a joke to guy b that I am his friend lol.
Guy b like just text him I am like no. From today no more contact with guy b.

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Tors33 · 08/02/2018 23:15

Ditch them both thy playing with u guy A don't want u guy B being a idiot

mpeters82 · 08/02/2018 23:19

Overthinking here

Guy A must think of me to say that to guy b.

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TangledSlinky · 09/02/2018 08:38

I'd lay money on the fact that A and B are the same person.

ScreamingValenta · 09/02/2018 08:48

Whether A & B are the same person or not, you are being totally messed about here. Forget them both and look for a Guy C who treats you sensibly and with respect.

WizardOfToss · 09/02/2018 09:39

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mpeters82 · 09/02/2018 21:35

Nothing happening with these guys at all.

Guy A got a girlfriend buy seeing him Monday threw me a bit. But I am okay the past is the past.

I never met guy B and I won't.
I won't hear from guy B anymore now.

I kind of know what has happened here and maybe I was overthinking this.

I am single and think I be staying that way for a long time.

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twizzr · 09/02/2018 21:42

Is it possible that anyone understands what`s happening

Poshsausage · 09/02/2018 21:44

Same person

pallasathena · 09/02/2018 22:00

Perhaps you need to chill a bit. Overthinking a lot I'd suggest.

mpeters82 · 09/02/2018 22:12

They are two different guys but I won't be hearing from them again.

I am good just got a bit over sensitive by something silly. But think it's nothing like I thought.

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