I wonder if anyone else has come across this before? I suppose within my post is a bit of a warning.
I met a guy on a dating site. We were on/off for about 6 weeks. In that time, he asked me a lot about my ASD and I willingly gave him information. He took the information and added it to his own profile, claiming to have the condition.
We discussed at length the possibility of his having ASD, but it became clear that, if anything, he had some odd personality traits which might amount to narcissistic personality disorder.
Fast forward, and it ended. It was the right thing to do. I blocked him on every medium, including the dating site. He was hard work and kept saying he did not want a relationship. Fair enough, but I didn't want to be picked up and dropped whenever suited him. Finally, he threatened me with talk of other dates he had lined up, and I decided that really had to be the end. Furthermore, he was rigid, controlling, preoccupied with his appearance, difficult to be with, competitive, aloof, hostile, argumentative, demanding. He fell out with everyone: bank, estate agent, his family, colleagues. Always the wronged one. Trying to remain friends would have been too difficult.
How weird it was to see his changing his profile telling potential dates he had mild ASD. Further into the profile he tried to make it sound as though he had already had a formal diagnosis, and like he carried the characteristics, but I know from my own research that they didn't match. I am concerned he might be "luring" women in, in a way, by sounding like a victim.
What am I trying to say? Not sure. I want to get this off my chest, and just to say that some men are not what they seem - but I know this is discussed a lot on OLD threads. You really do need a thick skin for OLD, but also, you need to keep your wits about you!