Which is worse - crappy father or absent father??

[Twillow]

Adult DD in tears AGAIN yesterday as her father has upset her. We are divorced and mainly nc re his abuse.
He regularly says things to her like "fuck off out of my house" if he's in a mood.
He has a good income and she's at Uni but he expects her to pay her own way for everything.
He spends a fortune on takeaways but is always moaning to her that I have taken his money.

He is causing her a lot of stress but she continues to see him. I know she loves him but his behaviour brings up so many red flags for me when we lived together.
I suppose I'm saying would she be better off cutting him out of her life or not?

Thank you everyone for your comments. It really is a no-win situation isn't it, but yes I do try to support her resilience - although her MH has certainly been affected.
She can't cut contact really as she worries about the other younger dc who stay there sometimes.

I do wish he would drop out of existence sometimes. Or that I'd pushed for full custody.

I had a cranky mother, since dying she has become an absent mother. I have never been so happy. I wish it had happened 10 years sooner.

*crappy but also cranky