Blocked and heart broken

[Movedout]

We met over a year ago and all was good, then he ended it after six months. I was brave and took it on the chin and made no attempt to contact him, even though I was devastated. Three month later and he contacted me again, things have not been as good as he made it clear that he didn’t want a committed relationship, but we have a great friendship and have lots of fun together. Recently he’s been blowing very hot and cold, so reluctantly I called it a day. He’s now blocked me on WhatsApp and it’s all horrible. It did need to end but not with such bad feeling. I feel so sad and almost physically sick, I like him so much. Should I ring him?

No don’t contact him again. And don’t respond if he contacts you.

I’m sorry I know you are upset. But it’s for the best, he’s not the right man for you.

There’s a 30 days No contact thead on this board with lots of others who are in the same position and they will give you moral support .

Listening to the responses, no wonder there so many lonely women about.

What about a little text (if he hasn't blocked me on text messages)?

Well y’know what... good on you for calling it day.

Feels absolutely awful I have no doubt..

Now comes the hard part - staying NC. I recommend www.breakuprecoveryguide.com and the baggage reclaim site.

You feel like you don’t have closure here. I know. It’s awful. But really you pull up your big girl pants make your own closure now, this guy did not want a relationship with you. The End. Ouch. It hurts.

If you contact him now you might as well have ‘I have no standards’ tattooed across your forehead. Of course you do have standards. Very good ones. So go and schedule in some time with friends/loved ones. Be your own best friend. He isn’t that. He’s in the past now.

yy to the NC thread.

The no contact thread is full. Will I ever feel better?

But OP you cannot control how he feels? You ended it and this is how he is dealing with it, his way?

He didn't want a committed relationship and being friends right now without intimacy wouldn't work? Do you need him to 'like' you to make you feel better? OP, you did the right thing. Let the dust settle, keep those boundaries in place and don't let him Hoover you up in 3 months time

No, dont contact him in any way. He has blocked you. He hasn't just left it or put a bit of space between you. He has taken the decision and made the effort to actually block you from his life. That isn´t the action of someone who wants you to give him a ring or send him a text. That's the action of someone who doesn't want to hear from you at all.

It will hurt for a bit and then it will pass. Yes, you will feel better.

Hi Movedout, I'm so sorry you're hurting. The NC thread is onto its fifth instalment and everybody there is truly lovely AND will give honest advice when necessary.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3159597-The-NC-Dignity-Club-part-5

You want someone who wants you as much as you want them. This is the rule I gave myself after finding myself divorced and lonely after subsequent two short term relationships didn’t work out. Going through the blocking part where you are now was painful but it does pass. And after that some time later I did meet my lovely dh.

You didn't expect it bit you need to accept it

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Thank you everybody for the honest replies, just what I need.

So he dumped you after 6 months? Then came back after 3 months telling you he didnt want a serious relationship?

In other words he didnt find anyone else and you would do in the mean time to tide him over.

He blows hot and cold and so you end it. Then he blocks you and you want to contact him?

So you can get your non boyfriend back who doesn't want a relationship with you?

Well when you put it like that. I'm devastated though

He is using this as a means of controlling or manipulating you . He knows it will hurt . He is kicking back at you . He's a wanker though and you need to try to remember that !

You'll feel lonelier still if you contact him and he throws it back at you, which he will.

Six months isn't long. Why do you think you got so invested?

Poor you, love. You must be really hurting. It seems so hard and unreal and painful but you must keep being strong, keep him out of your life, be very kind to yourself, find support in friends and loved ones. You will heal

Cmon, do you really want to hand the last remaining shreds of your dignity to a man who shows you he's not interested in you, That your are just a stop gap till something better comes along? You really don't.

Don't text him, don't go crawling back. Honestly. All the time you spend with someone who doesn't want you is less time you will find someone who does. And you will find someone, it's just not this twat

Don't be the stop gap girl. You deserve better than that.

Hi op,

Please please do not contact him. You deserve a thousand times better. He makes you feel awful about yourself, he has treated you terribly and he cares so little for you he blocked you without a second thought.

If you contact him he will either continue to ignore you which will hurt or he will worm his way back in so he can get his leg over and then dump you further along the line.

I know it hurts but no good will come of contacting him, it'll only prolong things and you are worth more.

x