Fake relationship?

[Somewhereoverhere]

Well I've just got off the phone with my mother. She's just told me that she thinks my relationship with my bf (of 5 months) is not real, pointless and I should dump him ASAP. I'm a single parent and see him about twice a week on average. He'll usually come round for food and a film on a Fri or Sat night, stay over, leave next morning & comes over one other night during the week. Sometimes I'll meet him at an activity he runs and leave once its finished. My mother thinks he should be with me every night and at least one weekend day. Am I wrong in thinking that's enough for early days guys?

There's no hard and fast rule...it's what suits you. If you're happy with the amount you see each other...that's fine.

I had a relationshio where we only saw each other at the weekend...it suited me fine.

Absolutely nothing to do with your mum. If you and he are happy that's all that matters.

You have DC and have only been with him 5 months?

No, he should not be with you every night. Where does she think the DC fit in here??

Yes that's what I said. This relationship is fresh out if the box.. No mutual friends, still getting to know each other. My mum just knocked me for 6 saying you should be spending all your free time together in the honeymoon period so threw a doubt on me.

Ive been with my DP 3-4 years and have only seen him twice in the last 4 weeks. Ignore your mum!

She said I'm being taken for a mug... He's coming round when he wants to.. On his terms. I mean it's not as if I can go out all night with a child at home is it? You lose the spontaneity when your a single parent and no breaks ever!

she's mad. why would you race it along.

My mother is a bit the same. she understands being single, abstaining, virtue :-p independence. She understands MARRIAGE and doing everything for your husband.

The stuff that falls in between, she can't seem to fathom it at all.

That sounds fine to me especially after 5 months. Continue at that pace for as long as that suits you. And don't feel the pressure to escalate to more then that if either. Tell your mum to butt her nose out!

As long as you are tuned in to your own wants and needs sufficiently to be able to accurately assess if it's right for you or not then you're not a mug.

I'd worry about you with your mother though! I bet you hardly know the difference between pleasing yourself and pleasing her the two are probably so bound up in each other :-/ been there, therapy helps

Oh god yeah she doesn't like not being right and has to be pleased but I think she's just being a tad over protective after my EXH walked out while I was pregnant....