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My marriage ended tonight but I have no money

20 replies

Changeymcchangeyface · 06/02/2018 21:00

Just that really, my husband and I have had a huge argument and decided to separate. He wants me to leave right now but I have no savings. We rent currently and have a dog. I don’t know what to do :(

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 06/02/2018 21:03

That’s awful. You’re married, so your assets are joint. Does he have savings? Whose names is the rental in? He can’t just kick you out. Don’t leave unless you’re not safe staying there.

Glynroberts · 06/02/2018 21:03

If your name is on the tenancy agreement you don't have to go anywhere. Who will keep the dog. How long to go on the agreement. Can you afford to stay there, maybe as a house share?

Dancetothebeat32 · 06/02/2018 21:03

So sorry for you OP

Why do you have to be the one to leave ?
Are you safe ?
If not is there anywhere you can call 💐

PurpleDaisies · 06/02/2018 21:04

Why are you the one who had to leave? Can’t he go if he’s the one saying someone has to leave?

Afreshcuppateaplease · 06/02/2018 21:04

Do you have children?

Are your bank accounts joint? Why do you have no money?

Quartz2208 · 06/02/2018 21:05

Yes you are married so you dont have to leave and you have joint savings.

I suggest that you say it needs sorting properly

MrsBertBibby · 06/02/2018 21:05

Even if your name is not on the tenancy agreement, you don't have to leave.

Violletta · 06/02/2018 21:05

whos name is the tenancy in? if joint or yours alone (and you're not in danger) then stay

NotSureThisIsWhatIWant · 06/02/2018 21:07

If you are not in danger, just stay. You do not need to leave straight away. Leave when you are ready and it suits you, not when he wants.

virtualreality · 06/02/2018 21:08

Nothing at all to fall back on? Nothing....

Are you a joint holder of the bank account. If so take half out now.

Have you a joint tenancy? If so you cannot be ordered to leave.

I know shit happens though, and I wish you well OP.

That thread about running away funds was correct in every way.

Bogmoppit · 06/02/2018 21:26

How long have you been married?

BadHatter · 06/02/2018 21:29

Why don’t you have money? Are you a stay at home wife...?

NeilPetark · 06/02/2018 21:32

Why does he want you to leave?

virtualreality · 06/02/2018 21:38

Independent fund is so necessary. I was watching the thread on this and I could not understand why some posters felt the need to chime in that no one needs this.

Hope you are OK op.

NaiceBiscuits · 06/02/2018 21:41

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mollifly · 06/02/2018 21:43

Why is everyone finding it so hard to believe the OP has nothing to fall back on? Savings and a disposable income are a luxury.

Farmerswife36 · 06/02/2018 21:44

Is he serious and after a nights sleep could things be sorted ?

virtualreality · 06/02/2018 21:49

mollifly,

I doubt the argument earlier was the first sign of trouble.

I also know that not everyone can have an escape fund either. But if you can, do it.

SilverySurfer · 06/02/2018 22:58

How very sad, from your other threads it seems you were only married about three months ago and were having fertility issues last month. This must have come as a terrible shock to you. As other PP have said, being married gives you certain rights - please don;t let your DH kick you out of your home.

Good luck.

greenritta · 07/02/2018 01:11

Op? Are you ok?

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