SEX issues ruining my relationship and my meantal health HELP

[unmumsyma]

hi all, sorry for long post.. need some other opinions because I'm questioning my sanity,.

My partner whom I ha e been with 8 years and we have 1 child - has an issue with our relationship that I don't even think is bad, SEX he says we never have sex.. we have sex at least once a week! this isn't normal apparently ??!!

He is now saying hes leaving me!!! because I don't make him feel loved and wanted and I'm a miserable bitch...

I suffer with anxiety and I do admit I cant be hard to live with at times but does this just not sound mental to you? or is he right?

when we first had our daughter.. first 2 years we never had sex... and he cheated we worked through everything and things improved and now this has all just come out of nowhere!.. I don't know what to do

Let him leave.

He is horrible.

You will be much better off without him.

Pack his bags for him when he wants to come back .... DON’T ALLOW HIM TOO

sex aside OP he doesn't sound happy and once he's not happy he's better off somewhere else. If he's cheated he could be looking for reasons to blame you for him straying.

Sounds like he may be off to pastures new, you are well rid. Hold your head up, take it one day at a time and be the best mum you can be to your little one.

The fact that this has come out of nowhere an he wasn't willing to discuss any of it with you shows a complete lack of respect for you and your relationship. Easier said then done but let him leave and create a better life for YOURSELF and CHILD.

I just don't get it!! its making me think hes cheated again and trying to be horrible to make himself feel better

He said he feels like I'm only with him for financial reasons!
I only work part time and he is the sole earner.. he practically rubbed it in my face id be f*cked without him

I am not happy either really I still cant forget about the cheating (this was over a year ago) he still blames it on my for not having sex with him or giving him attention I cant belive I stupidly have been trying to make someone happy who disrespected me so badly

I'm so weak

If you work part time he’s not the sole earner. He may be the main earner but unless your work is voluntary you earn too.
I’m not saying this to be pedantic - it seems like he’s doing your confidence down and language is important in terms of confidence.
You work part time (not “only part time”) presumably to offer more childcare for your child.
Once a week sex is fine, so is once a month, and once a day, if you both agree and enjoy it. This isn’t about sex but about being unhappy together.

He’s just a classic sexist pig who hates women.

Women exist to please him, they aren’t people and he’s angry that he has to share anything with such an inferior being.

This is classic modern sexism; men who still feel entitled to all the sexual and domestic subjugation of women but also feel enraged about ‘giving them my money’.

It’s not you, it’s him. He’s not fit to be in a relationship with anyone.

So.. this week he's been saying he's leaving sleeping on the couch etc, then last night he got in bed and started hugging me?!! I just pretended to be asleep then this morning he was enraged I didn't take the olive branch and "make it up" with him...

As IF I'm going to want to have sex with someone who's made me feel like a pile of crap all week?!! I'm so fucking angry

Also he bought me a very extravagant gift for Christmas .. he's getting his money back apparently coz I don't deserve it and I'm ungrateful!

He didn’t want to ‘make it up’ he wanted to do sex on you.