Been “ghosted” by partner...

[Elliejosie]

Heyy guys shall try keep this short and sweet!!!

Basically I met probably my now ex partner at the restaurant he works at as he’s a chef and I was with work colleagues so we ended up all discussing hospitality rubbish. We ended up swapping numbers as we clicked (Also he’s Spanish so very dreamy!)
We met up loads went for meals, chilled out yada yada. Sooo anyway after 3 months and in this time him asking me out rolls eyes he just suddenly stopped texting me or calling which left me a bit baffled as that week we’d planned to go out.
After a week he suddenly popped back up like he’d spoken to me 5 minutes ago...
So I passed this aside.
Anyway later on it happened again where we didn’t see each other and rarely spoke for 2 weeks. Again. Like a foof I shrugged it off.
So noooow we’re onto a month of not seeing each other and probably heard off him 4 times.
I had two missed calls off him on Saturday night but me been me thought sod ya I’m not answering!!!! Which I’m kind of regretting as I went to call back and he declined my call.
When this has happened without sounding stalkerish I’ve gone on WhatsApp and he’s been online very recently whether it’s 3 hours or 10 minutes ago?!
Has anyone been through similar?
Lookaly we both have children but they haven’t been involved but it’s made me feel so crappy.
Like oh great. Who really wants a single parent who works part time and studies between that.
Uhh.

Isn't it obvious he is seeing someone else?? You haven't seen him in a month? He is not actually your partner or ex it doesn't even sound like a relationship.

It’s not your kids, your job or your studies. I’m sure you’re lovely. He’s just not that into you so be glad it happened and move on to someone who wants what you want

Literally think I just needed to hear/see someone say that. And of course it’s not a relationship just had no idea what to call the mess.

Thank you lovely! Think I’m just having a poor me moment! Ha ha

Someone your seeing I would call it. Sounds very casual.

I guess I wouldn’t be too bothered if I knew that’s all it was going to be if that makes sense as I wouldn’t of put “all my eggs in one basket”. Nevermind ey!

They don't tell you that as they know must women wouldn't be interested if they knew they only wanted one thing!

This is true, thank you

OP - why are you even calling him a partner?
By your description - you are casually dating at best.
Have you ever had a conversation about what you want and expect from this? What sort of communication you / him want?

You know where he works. What’s stopping you from ending this passive wait, walking over there and asking him directly?

I bet you - some of your ‘relationship’ is really in your head. And he is just reaching out to you when he has time and no other options.

He isn’t your partner. He never was.

Block/delete. He’s intermittently contacting you to keep you hanging on and available should he fancy hooking up again, but he’s not actually interested in you. Cut him Off and you’ll forget about him pretty quickly.

Exactly what Josuk said. He wasn't remotely your partner, the two of you were very casually dating.

How old are you?

Do you think you maybe scared him off with being so full on? Calling him your partner when he isn't even a boyfriend sounds like your laying claims on him so he probably ran a mile.

I'm sorry, i think he's keeping you hanging on as a potential booty call. Any relationship there was is over. Time to move on. Block and delete.

Decide how much your worth, decide what the minimum of treatment you expect then don't ever let anyone ever trust you less than that no matter how you feel about someone. It really is as simple as that.

He is showing you how (un)important you are to him, it's up to you wether you think that's enough for you if it isn't and it definitely wouldn't ever be for me block him if you think it's ok to be treated like that then get on with it.