confused - what do you make of this?

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I met this guy via OD at the beginning of December. He was away on holiday and we've been chatting for a few days. The day after he was back he sent me a message saying he met someone and asking if we wanted to stay friends which I agreed. We kept chatting over the holiday season and we decided to meet at the end of December for lunch. At that point, he revealed he wasn't seeing the other woman any longer, so we ended up meeting again for a date in the evening and we kissed. We dated a few more times than he at the beginning of Jan he went abroad for one month. We have been regularly in contact while he was away. He was back yesterday and I went to pick him up at the airport to help him with the luggage. He was tired and a bit grumpy, so I literally helped him till home then left almost straight away (he didn't protest or insisted for me to stay). We were supposed to have dinner tonight but he said he wasn't feeling well and asked to move. I was also supposed to go to his place after work so I asked him if he wanted to cancel so he could rest and he agreed. I guess I am bit puzzled as he seems a bit grumpy and cold since he is back, and, while we were in touch regularly when he was abroad, we almost haven't talked at all since his return.
He is Dutch and quite direct in his talking, and the made clear many times he wanted to try to get to know each other, so from one side I think he is just being tired and unwell, but it does seem strange he is behaving like this now...

I think people are mentioning lack of self respect because you are making yourself too available to his needs so early on, that ever ends well. Relationships, even friendships, thrive on mutual respect and balance.
I don't get why you would stay friends with someone you met while old but quite quickly decided he didn't want to date you because he got, what he classed as, a better offer. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that.
If you had met and both d'decided it wasn't going to happen romantically but lets stay in touch fair enough but that's not what happened. Then when that didn't work out you were happy to start dating again, that was your first mistake.
I get that helping people is kind but why give yourself and time so freely, for someone who has already been unkind once. His nationality holds no excuse for his bad manners op.
I always do this, would I treat someone like that. If the honest answer is no why would I accept it myself.
Yes he may be tired and unwell but in these early heady romantic months it's meant to be all hearts and romance not moodiness and rudeness.
If he isn't biting at the bit to see you then my guess is, he's happy to use you as and when it suits him and he probably got the hump because he was expecting you to stay, thought he might get his leg over, and was pissed off when it didn't happen.
Either that or he just isn't that into you and is always rude and grumpy either way I wouldn't be interested.

So you are dating a man and he meets someone else whilst dating you so ends it with you, then things end with that person so he picks you up again because your oh so available. Sounds kinda desperate on your part. no?