So my best friend of over ten years is one of the most level-headed intelligent women I've ever known so I'm flabbergasted at how she's acting right now..let's call her Kylie.
She was molested at 14 by a man who was 25. he literally picked her up in his car, statuatorily raped her, and dropped her back off at her mother's house and took off regularly. Once she turned 18 she broke it off .
well 12 years has passed and he's turned into the winner I always knew he could be..living off of his gf (who he has a child with) , refusing to get a job that pays for more than his beer and cigs, and he's started messaging my friend again (they've been in touch off and on over the years, and he's always refused to leave his gf but has no issues flirting and sexting other women), sending my friend all these big professions of undying love and erotica novels. Messaging her everyday. Saying he loves her more than he's ever loved anyone and she's seered into his soul (or some such horse shit) and he wants to marry her
Kylie is actually taking him seriously (!?!?) and thinks that as soon as she moves back near him in a few months he will leave his long term gf and marry her. Oh and he won't cheat on Kylie the way he has his current gf cause they have this special soul mate bond 
and he "knows her more than anyone" ( cause I guess basically raping someone as a young teen means you know them)
MIND YOU: this man has made no moves to leave his financial security blanket relationship NOR made any real concrete promises to do so. He avoids any real commitment talk or any action . But she's convinced herself,that he eventually will 
Oh and of course his gf is just a big ol meanie head bitch who calls him lazy and says he's a cheater (huh I wonder why??) and she's abusing the poor 40 year old boy. This frustrates me to no end cause I had an abusive ex just like this.
I'm her only real friend she has since moving, I don't wanna leave her in the clutches of his manipulative cock. He has a hold on her because of the past abuse, she always goes running back whenever she's feeling lonely or vulnerable. But good god he makes me sick , and it's hard to be silent. It's all she wants to talk about , and he's making me so angry.