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Original poster

I just wish I had a friend I could talk too

25 replies

LMC84 · 04/02/2018 21:19

Like most I have worries & stresses
Marriage difficulties etc

I've got no one to talk too.
My best friend and family live nearly two hours away

My partners family r around but I can't talk to them
I don't see them from one week to the next
I don't have any friends were I live
Not lived here long n struggled to socialise without partner

My life is kids house etc no work
Even tho I want too

I just wish I had a friend

How sad am I 😂

OP posts:
Itsalottery · 04/02/2018 22:00

It is horrid to feel lonely when you're feeling sad. I'm sorry you feel that way. Can you not get out and about to meet people? Do you work? Hopefully tomorrow will feel like a better day.

llWelshDragonll · 04/02/2018 23:33

Hiya. Im in the same boat too. I have aqquaintances but no frie ds really. No-one to share things with who wont gossip as soon as i leave. Im new to this but so far i love it. Nothing but openess and honesty. X

llWelshDragonll · 04/02/2018 23:34

Anything i particular you need to talk about now? X

Original poster
LMC84 · 05/02/2018 16:47

Just life welshdragon lol x

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Ohyesiam · 05/02/2018 16:53

Talk to us op. I sky very alone and isolated when I first moved out of London, and I get how tough it is.

Schmoozer · 05/02/2018 16:54

Are you on Facebook?
Find us on chuMNs
A whole bunch of us with a shortage of chums supporting each other

Ohyesiam · 05/02/2018 16:54

Don't know where that random sky came from.....

Myddognearlyatethedeliveryman · 05/02/2018 16:55

Same here, mid 40's, no friends /family except dh +dc. Work alone so no colleagues either! Ddogs are good listeners though!!

Lucymek · 05/02/2018 16:59

I wish there was a friends app like Tinder lol. Sometimes I feel so alone too !

It's hard to meet people even out and about. People think you're weird if you try and friend them at my age.

Bubblesss · 05/02/2018 17:05

Join the gym..go to the library..many places where u meet new ppl ull be amazed...a friendly smile and someone’s bound to smile back and talk to u...take it from there...I genuinely believe as different and individual as we r there is always something that connects us all...goodluck...I don’t know where abts u r wudve loved to chat 😘

llWelshDragonll · 05/02/2018 19:33

I agree lucymek. All the friendship sites have a subscription fee x

llWelshDragonll · 05/02/2018 19:36

And its not as easy to just go to the gym when you partner works nonstop pretty much and you have kids to take care of x

llWelshDragonll · 05/02/2018 19:44

And its not just that. I have aqquaintances and people i can chat to about day to day stuff but no-one i can really trust not to gossip about everything ive told them x

Original poster
LMC84 · 05/02/2018 19:57

Thanks everyone
I've added myself to the Facebook group
X

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inlectorecumbit · 05/02/2018 20:01

i can't find the FB group Sad help

Bubblesss · 05/02/2018 20:02

I met a lot of local mums on netmums when my kids were little...I know it seems impossible but once kids go to school or nursery n have frequent play dates it all kinda happens naturally..fb is great ofcourse 👍🏻

llWelshDragonll · 05/02/2018 20:10

I cant find it either inlectorecumbit x

llWelshDragonll · 05/02/2018 20:11

This is a great place to have a chat. Which is all i need really. Somewhere to let off steam and not worry about everyone in the RW knowing my business x

whitecremeegg · 05/02/2018 20:25

I don't have any friends either

But in your case I don't think you need a friend, you need a counsellor. A friend won't stay a friend if you use them just to talk about all your problems.

Original poster
LMC84 · 05/02/2018 20:31

Whitecremeegg
I do have friends ~ I just don't want to burden them with my problems
My best friend has enough to worry about

My mother and grandma have enough to worry about so I don't want to talk to them

I don't just want someone to use.
That's not a fair comment

Welshdragon
I am weary of Facebook as it is in the real world but it is friends I want and not just someone to sound off too

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Bubblesss · 05/02/2018 20:50

It’s give and take which is what makes friendship a very beautiful relationship...and it’s something which starts small and u build on it by getting to know each other...try netmums...I posted my location and had 3 mums from the area meet up and catch up...it was like a blind date but had so much fun...honestly if ur local I’d love to meet u!

Original poster
LMC84 · 05/02/2018 20:54

I'm in between Leeds n Huddersfield Hun
N yeah I totally agree x

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Bubblesss · 05/02/2018 21:28

Oh gosh that’s a few hours away from
Where I am 😅 4 to be precise 😕 u seem like a really warm and friendly person I have no doubts ull be chumming up with a local mum real soon!!...there are a lot of ppl out there who r in need of a friend...especially after having kids...u need the support and sharing experiences makes it so much more fun x

Original poster
LMC84 · 05/02/2018 21:31

Thanks bubbles xx

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llWelshDragonll · 05/02/2018 22:50

I know friends arent just to sound off to. What im saying is i have 'friends' that i have fun with and listen to their problems but no-one i think is trustworthy enough or loyal enough to hear my problems and not gossip about them x

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