Unusual Behaviour

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Hello,
I want to stay discreet as possible as this may out me and that's the last thing I need.
Here goes my father works with this woman who is friends with who is also related to my partner and best friends with my mum but he flirts with this woman and acts all nice and if she asks him to do anything he does it straight away for her whereas if this was my mum she'd be last on the list now also they have been acting flirty around me which really pisses me off. A few people in our family circle have noticed these going ons and it got to a stage last night where we were at an occasion and one of my relations said it to me and I just broke down and I also mentioned it to my mum and she said she had noticed it too and has asked my dad and he has denied that anything has gone on. Which I do and I don't believe if not physically it's an emotional affair of that makes any sense😞 I have been in tears all day and worrying so much about what to do or how do I go about this. I Love my mum to bits but I also love my dad to bits and if I brought this up with him I feel we would never have the same relationship again and I am very close with both my parents they mean everything to me they have been together for almost 28 years. Please any advice would be appreciated.

Honestly I think you need to keep out of it

There is no possible way you can help by interfering.

I think there is a solution to your issue: ,

I think as hard as it is, it's actually your mum's issue to deal with by and large.

That said if I'm honest I'd find it very difficult not to have a very frank conversation with my father about how disrespectful he's being, it just to your mother, but also expecting you to witness him acting like a fool.

Your mum is now aware...so let them deal with it.

Depending on your age...you may feel able to tell your dad how several others have noticed and in order to avoid this ...he needs keep things professional.

I sense this is very emotive and upsetting for you...take care.

Shoxfordian I'm telling myself that it's none of my business but when this flirtatiousness is going on right in front of me changes that for me

donquixotedelamancha what's the solution or is it stay out of it

DarthArts Yes I am considering the frank conversation as to put my foot down and state this is totally inappropriate behaviour and total disrespect of my mother

SandyY2K I am 26, and yes my mum said she is aware also and that she has had enough the distance between them is getting more distant, I am very emotional over this to the point I am in tears a lot worrying about it and what to do and what not to do, my son who is 2 is very attached to my dad and I now feel guilty about talking about my dad to other relatives who have noticed and I feel down in myself knowing we are talking about this behind his back I love my dad very much and I am finding it difficult not to break down when he rings me for a chat and to see how grandkids are I really don't know what to do.

If it were me I would be telling him that if he discards my mother he looses me. But then I preferred my mother to my father and my loyalty was firstly to her. But then also my loyalty would never be with someone who was hurting other people, whoever they were.

You've mentioned your concerns to your mum i don't think you need/should do anymore x