Arguments

[Noodlee]

I'll try to keep this short.

So our LO is 4 months old tomorrow and I'm going through a lot right now. I think I'm suffering from bipolar/depression/anxiety/OCD and I'm really really struggling. My OH knows this and I tried to make an appointment to see the doctor this week but couldn't get in so I'm going to try again this week coming. Last night I was supposed to be going out with my sister and her friends drinking. I was up for it but when it came to it I didn't feel ready to leave my little one for a night out and just cried my eyes out and was extremely upset yesterday. My boyfriend and my sister's boyfriend were supposed to be having a lads night playing th xbox (they had this the night before as well as me, my sister and dad went out for a Costa and dinner). I decided not to to and turned to my OH and said I dont want to ruin your lads night though. He said I wouldn't but if i felt like I would i could go upstairs to our room. I told him this made me feel like he didn't want me there then 10 minutes later he asked me exactly these words "am I still allowed to have a guys night ". This made me so angry and upset as I felt so unwanted, especially with how upset I was already. So I was like fine I'm going upstairs. The night before was my night with our LO and she was up all night as my OH has been putting her in The bed which I disagree with and now she has gotten used to that. But then last night he had the cheek to come up and ask me to take her as they couldn't play x box with her down there as we dont allow violent games in front of her and they wanted to play COD.

This broke me because:

1. I didn't feel wanted downstairs and I was already really upset and he still wanted to have his lads night. It's not like I wanted him to come up and be with me, I just wanted to sit downstairs with them and not feel alone.

2. He wanted to play Xbox more than spend time with ou LO.

Opinions would be great on this. We ended up having a massive argument over it all

I think seeing your doctor and getting support will be a great first step for sorting out how you feel and how you manage life with a LO.

Try not to push your OH away - if he does his fair share with the LO and around the house I wouldn't read as much into his planned night gaming as perhaps you are.

Yeah I'm defiently going to get some help as it's really affecting our relationship. I'm just so surprised he would leave me upstairs upset. If i knew he was upset and going through something i would be there in a heartbeat for him x

Maybe he sees your behaviour as a manipulation tactic. Your story does read like you were unsuccessfully manipulative.

Please seek help and it was ure fault u cancelled ure plans doesn't mean he has to ure being manipulative about it he doesn't need to drop everything and console u yes u were upset I don't really see why u could off went out u chose not to he chose his nyt in like planned he myt have been looking forward to it don't deny him happyness cause of how ure feeling I'm bi polar and wouldn't act like this as my partner deals with alot from me and deserve abit of fun whenever he can not like he was out all nyt drinking