Is it normal?

[catladee]

My partner reckons that shouting at each other (it's mostly one sided) is normal in a relationship. Apparently every single relationship he has been in, that is how it works.
I am really thinking of leaving, we have argued a lot lately and I don't like the person he has shown himself to be.
He just doesn't understand that shouting at me upsets me, and I can't "just get over it"
I want to leave but I'm finding it hard.
I daydream of living on my own with no-one shouting and swearing at me, or telling me what to do/not to do all the time.
I just want peace, and not to be waiting for the next argument all the time :(

You can't stay with someone for your pets.

In think arguing/shouting is normal in relationships (as long as it's not all the time which sounds like it is) I actually find it more odd when people say they never argue with their partner ever. I've also shouted at my kids when they haven't listened.

Does it really matter if it’s “normal” or not? It’s making you scared and unhappy. Leave.

11 years together. Never shouted once.

Nope not normal. I'm divorcing and we still haven't shouted at each other. Sent pissy texts yes but no shouting. No other relationships have involved shouting either.