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Anyone awake

27 replies

minime88 · 04/02/2018 00:01

My partner is out and drunk, he has depression. He has been messaging me threatening to kill himself. I dont know where he is and neither does he apparently. Should I call police?

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PurpleDaisies · 04/02/2018 00:03

Yes, that’s the best thing to do. They can give you advice on what to do next.

LovingLola · 04/02/2018 00:04

Can you track him on his phone (like find-my-phone on an iPhone?)

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minime88 · 04/02/2018 00:06

Okay....I’ll try and track him and ring police. Thank you- I know it aounded like a silly question it’s just if I don’t know where he is I wasn’t sure they’ve could do anything

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totallywired · 04/02/2018 00:06

Yes, call the police, it sounds like he wants you to take action to stop him. I’ve been through this with my husband. Do you know his location?

PurpleDaisies · 04/02/2018 00:07

Bloody hell josuk, what a horrible post. Did you miss the history of depression?

LexieLulu · 04/02/2018 00:08

Defo police, I hope everything is ok!

BeetlebumShesAGun · 04/02/2018 00:10

Has he rang you? I would keep him on the phone with you, try to get him to find a taxi? Perhaps ring emergency services on your landline at the same time.

Sending you lots of love. My husband also has depression. It’s totally shit.

totallywired · 04/02/2018 00:10

The police can bring him to the police station and health professionals can meet with him to determine if he needs to be sectioned. It’s not at waste of nhs and police time. It’s serious.

WitchesHatRim · 04/02/2018 00:12

Yes ring the police OP.

Josuk words fail me....

AdoraBell · 04/02/2018 00:13

Agree, call police,

Josuk · 04/02/2018 00:41

I have had depression and been treated twice.... both counselling and medication.
And my father was an alcoholic...

So - no. I don’t think it’s a horrible post. I think people need to take responsibility for their own actions.

If he was having a MH episode - I’d be the first one to say - do anything.

But no - I don’t have much sympathy for grown up people allowing themselves to get so drunk that the need to have people ‘saving’ them.

PurpleDaisies · 04/02/2018 00:45

How could you possibly know hw isn’t having a MH episode?

PenguinsandPandas · 04/02/2018 00:45

Yes I would call police.

Catkins0877 · 04/02/2018 00:58

Call the police.xx

DistanceCall · 04/02/2018 01:01

Call the police. Better safe than sorry. And he IS threatening to kill himself.

Itscurtainsforyou · 04/02/2018 01:10

Op - a friend of mine did this to me. She was 500 miles away (I knew where she was, just couldn't get to her). I called the police to ask for help, they were lovely and tracked her down and took care of her.

It's not an over-reaction to call the police in these circumstances.

mum11970 · 04/02/2018 01:22

Agree with others to phone police and then phone your dp back and try and workout where he is. Ignore Josuk, your dp needs help and shouldn’t be ignored.

PointlessUsername · 04/02/2018 01:31

Hoping you have had some advice from the police by now & that DH is home safe and well..Flowers

RebelRogue · 04/02/2018 01:57

Phone the police and let them know. See if you can track his phone, on androids if you know his goggle account use that. Will he talk to you?

DazzlingMilton · 04/02/2018 05:58

Did you find him OP, how is he?

PenguinsandPandas · 04/02/2018 11:30

Hope you have him home by now and things are more stable. Please encourage him to see the doctor, I would tell the doctor yourself even if he won't. Anti depressants and counselling are both worth considering.

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minime88 · 04/02/2018 21:47

Thank you everyone- with help from a friend of his and the police we got him home! Not been the greatest of days BUT he’s being a lot more vocal about his feelings and what steps to take next so I’m hoping things will improve x

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tallwivglasses · 04/02/2018 21:49

So glad x

PenguinsandPandas · 04/02/2018 21:53

Glad you got him home safely and hope you can get some good support from the doctor for him.

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