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How do I stop being so needy

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Gossipqueen14 · 03/02/2018 21:57

h and I broke up on Sunday after I found evidence of him cheating two years ago...he didn't even try to explain himself just blamed it on me. Moved all my things out of house today and DC to a room in my parents as I can't afford the house alone.

Why am I begging him to change his mind why am I a wreck how do I stop this 😢😢😢

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Costacoffeeplease · 03/02/2018 22:07

Why do you want someone who cheats on you?

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Gossipqueen14 · 03/02/2018 22:09

I don't even think I really want him I'm
Scared of being alone after 15 years

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Myddognearlyatethedeliveryman · 03/02/2018 22:11

You aren't alone, you have dc and dps.
And the chance to start a better life for you both.

category12 · 03/02/2018 22:12

Why are you moving out? Is it rented?

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Gossipqueen14 · 03/02/2018 22:17

No it's mortgaged in his name I also feel it's better for me to be out of there too many memories

Hate this panicky sick feeling

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category12 · 03/02/2018 22:21

If you're married, it doesn't matter whose name it's in - it's a marital asset. You may not want to live there any more, but you really should get legal advice and not let the panic drive you.

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Gossipqueen14 · 04/02/2018 10:57

Today I just feel numb when do these horrible feelings leave

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CheeseCakeSunflowers · 04/02/2018 11:07

You're still in shock. For now concentrate on practicalities and supporting your dc. Tomorrow morning make an appointment with a solicitor to find out your rights but make no decisions yet. Give yourself time to calm down and think about all the options, you have somewhere to stay with people who care about you so there is no immediate rush to make decisions.

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Gossipqueen14 · 05/02/2018 09:43

Sitting in work taking slight panic attacks...he is so cold with me won't answer any questions won't discuss money, I have left my home to move to one bedroom and he doesn't care

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ThisLittleKitty · 05/02/2018 11:15

How old are the kids?? Horrible that he is treating you this way. How can it possibly your fault he cheated?! I would walk away with my head held high. He isn't even begging for forgiveness it's him that should be begging not you.

Lovemusic33 · 05/02/2018 11:30

What you are feeling is pretty normal. I kicked dh out 3 years ago and even though I knew I didn’t love him anymore I still missed him and kept getting waves of grief when I felt like asking him to come back.

Keep really busy, plan fun things with friends so you have things to look forward too and what ever you do don’t cave in. Things will get easier and you will remember why you left him.

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Gossipqueen14 · 05/02/2018 18:03

How can anyone get through their day without asking about their child! Who is this man!! I am so angry

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ChickenMom · 05/02/2018 18:57

I understand you’re hurt and angry but it would be best to try and think of what to do next. Don’t wait around for him to change his mind. He cheated on you. He’s checked out of the marriage. Go see a solicitor and start fighting for what you are entitled to. You don’t just walk away from a property if you are married, even if it’s his name on the mortgage. Go and get informed.

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