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Not sure what to do - STBXH avoiding paying for everything

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PawsyMcPawFace · 03/02/2018 15:03

I've moved out. he's supposed to be paying a paltry amount of CM because he's on min wage through his own biz. I've got CSA looking into it. He hasn't even paid the pittance he's supposed to be paying.

Kids are 12 and 14. DD lost her hobby kit and I'm rapidly running out of money. I'm paying rent whilst he's in the mortgage free marital home. He's not given me anything. Kids don't want to see him but he takes them out occasionally.

I asked DD to phone and arrange for her DF to get a new kit. Approx £50 for the official kit and then another £40 for shoes that they have to have. SHe phoned and he asked that i pay half.

Then he phoned again and ranted to my DD. SHe put the phone down. Sent her a whinging text.

To put this all into context, he's abusive. I don't want anything to do with him and contact him for the bare minimum. I assumed that he would at least buy a fucking kit for his DD without drama. Perhaps I should have emailed him but he usually fucks around and uses it as a way to have a go at me.

Anyway, i went and bought the first part of the kit but he wants an email to say exactly what i want and I'm getting the old palpitations just thinking about emailing him. I'm thinking i should just cut my losses. She still needs her shoes, which i was going to get him to buy but the thought of it makes me feel sick.

The injustice is eating away at me today but i'm usually quite detached about it.

It fucks me off. I look after the kids 24/7, get nothing from him and I've found out he's been shagging someone in the marital home. He's strung me along for ages and i just want to scream.

It's going to court although he;s stringing that along to. I'm in a pokey house whilst hes sat in a big fucking house with no restrictions to coming and going with no money worries. I feel like a complete mug.

Am between sols atm and have claimed all benefits that i can.

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laura65988 · 07/02/2018 06:44

Why is he in joint house when u have kids force him to sell for for ure share x

Cambionome · 07/02/2018 07:06

Have you seen a solicitor?

PawsyMcPawFace · 07/02/2018 21:32

Yep, seen sols. Going to court. Long process. He's a fuckwit. I'm feeling stronger today. I hate him with a passion. How can you not pay for your kids? Really?

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