need advice on relationship

[mystery2308]

hi all , need a bit of advice on my relationship. we have a 6 month old child together and i feel like the relationship is slowly starting to fall apart, for a few months now we havent been our usual self, when we argue we tend to not talk and its all ok the next day but whenever i ask to talk he just says i dont want to talk i want to be left alone. i know he isnt talking to anybody else and we trust eachother, when we arnt argueing we get on like a house on fire but when we fall out i feel so hopeless he sometimes says he dont love me anymore and he dont want to be with me anymore and obviosuiky that makes me cry and he then tells me im emotionally blackmailing him. i love this man to bits but im honestly stuck on what to do. if he wont talk to me how am i ment to know how he truely feels???
i feel like waiting until the next day isnt a good resolution to an arguement. our sex life has also gone down hill since having a baby which is understandable due to not having much time alone but even when we have time alone i dont feel like doing anything because im just so tired and he then moans at me for that too. i just feel like nothing i do is good enough. i cook i clean and i do everything around the house dont get me wrong he does help out but i usually tell him to have a break because of being at work all the time. i just dont know how im supposed to get him to sit and talk to me about it all ive tried asking and asking and he just says he wants to be alone then the next day comes and everything ia fine until i do something wrong again. im just so drained i really need him to talk😒

This sounds more hassle than it's worth ure sex life shouldn't be that just cause uve had a baby doesn't mean use don't have needs or a desire to be together do u want to be like this forever if he won't talk tell him it's over as u have tried and u're getting nowhere sounds one sided and he's been selfish live life but not like this xx

What is your situation OP ? There will be a barrage of people telling you to LTB because things are less than perfect - but I know that practically and emotionally it's not that easy. Also , it may not be necessary if , with. bit of effort you may both be able to improve things.
First of all - you need to understand, that contrary to popular belief- a baby rarely brings a couple closer together. More often than not it is a hand grenade thrown into a (sometimes) fragile relationship. Which of course has the result of shattering it into a thousand pieces.
So - how was the relationship before baby. ? How long have you been together? Are you married ? Are you working /Mat leave ? Do you have your own money / home ? Do you have somewhere to go if you decide to leave. ? That's the practical stuff.

The emotional stuff is going to be affected by sex. Sex is the glue that holds a relationship together, and when one party doesn't want it and the other does - this quickly leads to feelings of rejection and unhappiness , which in turn leads to a lack of investment in the relationship. (this works both ways round - plenty of women on here deeply unhappy having celibacy forced upon them)
Of course it's understandable that you aren't that interested but you have a baby , who I expect fulfills all your emotional needs and then some ! Especially if you are home all day with LO. Your partner doesn't have that connection yet. The mother/child bond can be very intense and unintentionally excluding to partners just because you and LO are together such a lot . If he feels a bit left out or a bit disconnected from you , sex is a way of recreating that bond.
It can be a chore and an effort but the expression of 'fake it till you make it' is not too far from the mark. But there are actual physiological reasons to 'invest' in your sex life in the creation and release of the 'bonding' hormone Oxytocin.

There will be the predictable chorus of disapproval that you don't have to have sex with someone you don't want to have sex with. Of course you don't. You don't have to be with ANYONE you don't want to be with and if you want advice on wether you should leave the answer is simple. You don't need a reason. If the relationship makes you unhappy, you can end it. No 'reason' required.
If you think it's worth working on then talking to each other. Time away from baby to focus on the two of you - if possible , and getting some of that feeling back that you had before baby, will help you communicate better.