Remind me how you move on when is just not working

[TinselAngel]

You still love them, but the relationship is causing more pain than good. Remind me how you go onwards and upwards?

Hello.
Well, here's what I'd do.
Write all about it in my journal....all the things that aren't working.
Start thinking about what next....
Start looking at other men. I downloaded the tinder app and used to look at the faces of the men on it. Nice normal looking people who I could meet up with this very week, potentially.
Agree with myself that it's over, it's changed, it can't go back etc.
Look to the future.
Boundary off comms with him.
Don't see him.

This is very hard. I have recently come out of one of these. It hurt like he'll and still does. I think if you've tried to talk and nothing is getting better you have to walk away no matter how much it hurts and just grieve it.

Thank you both. Excellent advice. I've never split up with somebody who I haven't fallen out with before. We're used to texting each other all the time. It's so difficult to stop, but I know it's making things worse.