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[Lucydean22]

I'm having a crisis with the father of the baby. Basically when I found out that I was pregnant I was so scared in telling the father but when I did he was telling me to get rid of it and saying nasty stuff to me (all out of shock from his side) after a while we been talking and it has been good as he wants to be there for the baby. Then this gets more mind playing as one minute he says that he would like to try and make things work for me and him for our child's sake and then a few days later he will switch to just wanting to be involved with the child. It's upsetting for me as I love the guy. He does have some insecurities about himself and that obviously brings him down which affects his mood towards me. I mean sometimes when I see him, we would be spending time together and he would be so intense and close with me and be talking about us being together and then a day or two later he would pretend he never said that and says stuff like he doesn't want a relationship with me. It winds me up because it's like he is playing mind games with me and it's not fair. I wanted to move so I could get over him but where I wanted to move to wouldn't be fair on to travel to see his kid. So right now I don't know how to feel or what to do as my feelings are all over the place with him

Don’t put your future in the hands of this man. If he loved and wanted you, you would know about it by now.

Move to wherever you were going to and if he follows great but if not he really is no loss

How old is he?

He's 26 like he's said he loves me countless of times and then times he would just back to square one of being distant I get on with his mum and she always tells me he does find controlling relationship and being around people hard as most of the time he will get in from work and just go to his room or he'll go to the cinema on his own and then go back home and go straight to his room and play on his PS4. We do talk but I'm trying not to be too persistent as I know how much he prefers his alone time but I just hope he gets out of that when our baby is here as myself and our child will need him. He even said that he's waiting for this kid to be born and trying to see if we can work on building a relationship with each other properly however he will be spending a month with me as I live with my nan she goes away to New Zealand this month and he said he'll be coming to stay with me to look after me and cook me dinner and all that so maybe when he does come and stay with me for a month maybe his actions of being with me will improve. We shall see but I just feel like I'm being put all over the place and I don't need that

Looks like he wants sex and no serious commitments.

Sounds as if he likes his own company, own space and a quiet life without complications. Not hopeful that he'll become a committed hands-on father. You could give it a try - as long as you have a back up plan to go it alone as a single parent.

How long have you been together? Doesn't sound like the most stable relationship to be having a child together. Are you able to do this alone if needs be?

Is this both of yours first child? Having a baby along with all the joy brings a lot if stress.