What to get the man who doesn't want anything

[chameleonsocks]

I've been with DP for almost three years, living with him for most of that time. I know him well but I have zero idea what to get him for Valentine's Day and our upcoming anniversary!

He's not a bloke who likes 'things'. He's not into fashion, doesn't care about having nice leather accessories, etc. He's not a big drinker. He's not sporty. He's not into cooking. He's not really into books. He's not into posh skincare or smellies. He's quite lazy so anything resembling a ticket to an event would be more of an annoyance to him than a treat.

He's into tech but not in a way that I could get him anything - e.g he'd probably like a state of the art set of speakers but I can't afford to buy those.

Above all, he hates gifts for the sake of gifts. Novelty tat or sappy personalised stuff, even if it's good quality.

I've got him slippers, chocolates, video games he's asked for in the past, but I want to get him something good for once.

What would you get for a bloke like that?

Dressing gown

Or suggest you don’t buy each other presents but get something for the house instead that you can keep ... a nice picture, ornament etc

buy him an experience..e.g weekend away? spa day? drive an expensive car? dinner/lunch at a posh place? balloon ride etc

How about this www.reboundbooks.co.uk/ OP? You can choose from the range of books they have on offer, or send them one of your own to have made into a notebook for your DP. I did it for my best friend last year with a book that was a private joke between us & they were ridiculously touched. It's personal, thoughtful, and hopefully useful, rather than just being a piece of tat for the sake of it (warning, their website can be a little clunky, but I've ordered from them quite a few times, and their service is brilliant)

Sex toys

Why not ask him? I hate gifts as well, especially 'things'. It all just seems like junk to me and I hate more clutter. My dh knows now to ask me. If there is a specific thing I do genuinely want I can tell him, but often it is more experiences and I usually tell him that as well. So I opt for lots of spa days or special meals out and things like that. Same with him. He does like things, but they are very technical things for his hobbies (and I have no damn idea what to buy). We just pretty much tell each other. It's still lovely to give and receive those sorts of gifts and everyone is happy. That said, I don't think most guys expect anything for Valentine's. A cheesy card and a night out and some quality time together is probably more than enough!

Yay! Glad I was of use @chameleonsocks . I used to work at the zoo in a roundabout way and saw people do the feeding experience, looked like lots of fun and at the right time of year there's even baby penguins- they are both incredibly cute and incredibly fluffy.
My dp doesn't like stuff either (and is also incredibly difficult to buy for). This year I've decided to get him a biscuit tin ha now that is boring!

A weekend away
Tickets to a gig or sporting event
A tattoo voucher

Mine is a whisky drinker, so I get him something a bit nice from www.mastersofmalt.com. Makes him happy!

Ride in a 2 seater plane ?
Helicopter flight somewhere?
Balloon flight?

Something you will both remember as a great day regardless of the reason you chose for it

Nothing. Why buy something for someone you know doesn't like being given something just for the sake of it?

dinner out somewhere nice?

Book a city break? Leicester do a stayplayexplore package for about £130 including a night in a 5star hotel with a spa and tickets for some city experiences. Or a weekend in Barcelona/Amsterdam/Berlin/Copenhagen/Edinburgh (Edinburgh zoo is amazing and there is the night ghost walks, open bus tours, the castle and it's just a fab city)

Or a spa weekend/book a cottage by the sea with a hot tub.

Some salsa classes or cocktail making or wine tasting evening

I always say don't get me anything - seriously, I don't need more shit..

We try to go to the threatre etc, and things like that.

Has he got an Echo dot? My DH really enjoys sitting there asking Alexa silly questions and to play music.

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guide dog puppy

Take him at his word and don't get him anything. Really. He's said he's not into gifts for the sake of it, so why are you trying to get him a gift for the sake of it.

This looks a great gift
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Second echo dot. My husband loves his that we got him for his birthday.
Another idea is time away with his mates, no wife, no kids!

Would he enjoy the thoughtful personalised stuff like some homemade vouchers that he could 'cash in' when it suits him? For eample a homemade three course dinner, or a pub lunch, a massage, something sexual he loves, vacuum his car etc etc