Break up

[emzy09]

Hi there I really need some advice,tips or just help.
Me and my partner of 14 years have just recently separated, we have 4 children 10 month, 4, 7 and 9 year old. We both know it needed to happen but doesn't make me feel any better, he has gone we still being civil he wants us to work on building a friendship if not it makes the feeling develop. I do agree but as I am the one who still has the house and the children I am absolutely devastated. Family are being supportive but I just feel so alone, trapped and stuck. He says he doesn't want this to be the end but I'm so afraid that he will never come back. I know I should be positive but I'm really struggling!!

I'm not sure I fully understand.
Where has he gone?
Do have arrangements in place for him to see the children?
Do you both work?
Is the house mortgaged in both your names or rented?
Have you spoken to a solicitor?
Do you know what finances would look like if you were to separate?
Do you want to save this relationship?
If so what are you doing about it? Counselling?

I don't understand why the split if use aren't sure it's what use want