Should I run for the hills?

[coffeelover1]

I have started seeing a new BF and we have been dating for a couple of weeks. Things have been going fine, we get on really well and have similar interests and hobbies. There is one big catch which is making me question things.... his mother. I met her for the first time over the weekend and although she is nice I was a bit concerned by how financially demanding she was from my BF. I do not want to give myself away but can say that she is young but recently quit her job as she "could not be bothered" to work anymore. He currently pays her rent and she expects him to finance her lavish lifestyle (she now spends lots of time shopping at high end stores for shoes and bags). She also goes for expensive spa treatments on a weekly basis. She has no savings and expects my BF to pay for all this. He lives in his own house and although earns a decent wage is by no means a millionaire.

I really like him and want to have a future with him but I am not sure if I can do so if his mother expects me/him to pay for her lifestyle. He has confided in me that he does not want to finance her anymore but is at a loss as to how to break the news to her! I find this a very strange situation and am at a loss of what to do. Part of me wants to see how it pans out but another part of me wonders if I should move on (I have only been dating him for a few weeks and we live separately at the moment).

Yeah, I don't think this is the right relationship I'm afraid.

It's not the supporting one's family that's troubling as that can be a nice thing on the face of it. It's the particular way it's happening here, combined the impact on your relationship of only a few weeks that is odd. It would ring alarm bells for me too.

The shorter the relationship the faster the weirdness at work will blow over - get out quick!

So while he is "the man of the family" and has to provide for his mother, you have to provide for him! I don't think so! Not grabby at all OP. In that scenario YOU are effectively funding his mother's spa trips! He should not have agreed to the concert if he can't afford it.

He keeps complaining about having to give his mother money and expects me to have some sort of solution.

If he's looking to you to problem solve already in HIS family ... run.

Run Run Run. He will never detach from his mum without damage. If he does it for you it will big strain on your relationship at any point in time.
Also, you have no right to ask him to do so. He is clearly aware of what his mum is doing and happily allowing her to carry on. Could that change if starts a serious relationship/family and his financial goals/priorities change? Totally possible. But mum will find hard to believe that it's not the partner's influence as opposed to her son's free will.
I feel for him and he could be keeper but the situation with his mum is unhealthy.
Good luck

Frankly I don't think its any of your business. You've only been dating 2 months & although I appreciate you may have known him a lot longer you are only at the start of this relationship. Say you chat to him about it & to keep you happy(as men often want to do) he tells his mum that he'd not going to continue helping her, and then in 6 months time you 2 split up. You may well have ruined his relationship with his mother for ever, for no good reason. Totally different if you've been dating for a year or two & want to move in together and settle down.

Try not to run before you can walk.

2 weeks or 2 yearsit really doesn’t matter..

RUNNNNNNNNNNN!

Also absolutely do this...
I have a friend who really wants to go and am thinking of asking her to take his place.

If I do that though, I know we will split up over this.
Good! he is already looking for you to indirectly sub his mum! Cheeky Fuckery at its finest

hadthesnip he made it the OP's business by expecting her to subsidise his concert trip, but I do agree trying to influence the mother/son relationship is unwise. I would end the relationship.