Frustrationqueen's update

[Frustrationqueen]

Since it ended i was harrassed and somewhat stalked for a while. He was leaving notes in my garden, contacting my friends, creating new facebook and instagram accounts to contact me. He even slagged me off claiming how evil i was etc and told people very private stuff about me - such as the pregnancy.

I threatened him with legal action a week ago and so far it seems to have stopped him.

In the meantime i have found out that he has been claiming to all of our mutual friends that i am the one wanting him back and trying everything to make that happen!!

Because he is such a liar nobody believes him, thankfully. His lies have apparently got a lot worse since we broke up. I have had a few people ask me if he lies a lot, including the police.
He has been calling them with reports that dont seem to have happened, or been true. To the point they are now questioning his mental health and are being forced to take this serious since he has called almost 100 times over a year.

A lucky escape i have had and i thank karma for kicking him right up the arse. His lies are so extreme that people are seeing him for what he actually is. A lying piece of shit! A spoilt little brat and a twat.
I found out that his mum has asked him if he is gay again as well.

What do the police do in cases of nuisance calls?

Hi

Glad you are still hanging in there and came back to update us. How are you doing in yourself?

Your ex sounds a right head case. Not sure what the police can do, maybe lock him up or fine him for wasting police time? I really don't know the ins and outs of how the police operate I'm afraid.

I am glad that he is currently leaving you alone though.

He sounds like he is having mh problems, indeed.

If he contacts you in any way - any way at all - let the police know.

My dd was being harrassed by her ex, then it started looking like stalking (luckily he lived very far away). When it got to the point that she cried every time her mobile rang from fear it was him, she called the police. She gave statements, they talked to him by phone, he didn't believe it was actually police so continued contacting (and telling very oersonal details to mutual friends and acquaintances, as well as lies). The police are now bringing him in for 'questioning' - I think he'll believe it really is the police now - and will issue a caution. He will have a criminal record and will have to declare it to employers. He is only 25.

I don't know what the next stage is, op. But that's as far as dd has got. The police are brilliant with her. She's in the middle of A Levels...

Perhaps your ex will take it seriously now and stop? Sometimes police involvement is enough. If they think he need mh help, they will send him to the right place.

I hope he leaves you alone now, and you can start to rebuild your life. Keep talking.