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My relationship

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Starshine132 · 30/01/2018 18:54

I'm sorry but I think this will be a bit of a rant.

I got into an argument with my husband on my way home. Something stupid but I'm just fed up of him being so stubborn. I'm not easy at all to be with, but I am upset with him.

We got home and found out that his brother and girlfriend got engaged (genuinely pleased for them) but after that argument, thoughts of my own shitty engagement, where his mum started talking about our future kids (which we hadn't even mentioned) and religion (different denomination)... and the fact that last year this day I had a miscarriage. He tried to make up by hugging me and I pushed him away saying he was nasty, he said it was just an argument and he hadn't been nasty (he wasn't nasty but I told him he was as I was angry)

I left and I am currently sitting in a pub hating my life feeling sad for myself.

He texts to ask me to come home and he'll cook dinner. I haven't replied and am planning on sitting here feeling sorry for myself.

I'm just struggling with life At the moment. I really just want to never see anyone and be alone for a long time. We have no kids, but I do love him very much.

Anyone else feel they could be with their partner and alone at the same time?

Sorry I have no idea why I am posting just really upset.

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Myddognearlyatethedeliveryman · 30/01/2018 18:57

On such a shitty day you need to share your grief with him not end the day still not speaking. Accept his offer of a meal and go home.
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Karigan1 · 30/01/2018 18:57

Get up and go home. Your comfort should come from him. He’s tried to help. He’s tried to hug you. He’s tried to cook dinner and you’ve spurned it all for what? What exactly do you hope to achieve by sitting there by yourself?

Get up. Go home. Talk to him about how you feel and take the hugs. Then gave a warm bath to help yourself feel better and snuggle up next to him with a hot chocolate.

Unless of course this is all because you’re not happy being with him in which case you choose to go.

Starshine132 · 30/01/2018 19:11

Thanks both. I needed that.

I'm on my way home now.

Karigan1, a good question. I have asked myself that question but the answer has always been that I want to be with him. So it's not that.

Not sure I'll open up to him, as I have a tendency to bottle up feelings and putting on a brace front but definately going to take the hugs.
Thanks

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