What to do

[Notmyactualname]

DH have our issues. It’s recently come to a head. Sat night he was pushing me around, then held his hand over my mouth. I was laid down in bed. All because I said no to sex.

I feel like I’ve seen the light. I’ve just read an article on ‘bad sex’ and so much of it resonates with me. I’ve often felt coerced into having sex with him and often would give in for an easy life. It’s not right, but I don’t know what to do. He feels I’m a ‘sexless, loveless’ wife who only thinks of herself.

Our lives are pretty hectic right now, we’re due to visit my parents in a week for a big birthday, staying the half term week. We are also going through a very difficult time with one of our DC (we have 3) and I’m not sure they could cope with much else.

I don’t know what to do.

What happens ‘after he calms down’?

He has shown you what he will do and he is continuing to threaten, as soon as you talk about going, he threatens ‘you aren’t taking the kids with you’.

Listen, things never get better from this until you leave and stay left.

If not your parents, do you have friends? Other family? Who can help you be safe? Do you have money?

Call the police, your actions aren’t making him angry, he is angry.! You have done nothing.

Please get out ASAP you are not safe

If he cools off I think we could manage a split fairly amicably, maybe.
I don’t know, if it wasn’t for us going away I think I would be tempted to uproot with the kids when my wages land, but for a few days before we go I think it will be too much for them.

He’s told you the kids are staying with him?
What is yr response to that?

It sounds like you are minimising the risks and have been doing that for some time.

What would help you now? Where are you? Him? What the tension like?

I’ve told him it’s not fair to punish the kids because of his actions.

He’s mainly laughing about it. I’m avoiding being in the same room

Ideally he’ll make his excuses as otherwise the kids will be worried