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No courage to leave

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Emy0306 · 30/01/2018 01:23

My husband smokes cannabis regularly. When he doesn't have it for a few days his mood declines so much . He is depressed and moody and very aggressive . I don't agree with the cannabis smoking, it's just not my scene. He totally disagrees and tells me about all the benefits etc and says he won't give up. He always does it late at night in the garden but I'm still embarrassed the neighbours will smell it .
We have never had a great relationship but after twins and another son it's just dire, we have had no physical contact and have barely spoken for months and months.
I feel very trapped as I have no money if I leave and I have three under fives and I'm not the most energy filled person to cope.
He swears at me and calls me every name under the sun. I never retaliate back anymore although I used to when we were younger, I just sit on my own and think God where are you when I need intervention x

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MrsTerryPratchett · 30/01/2018 04:42

Do you have any RL support?

Stella60 · 30/01/2018 04:47

Any family or good friends around who could help you make a plan? Try contacting local women's refuge. It's a really unhealthy way for you and DCs to live. Hope you find a way out soon.

LEMtheoriginal · 30/01/2018 05:21

You would have a lot more energy if you didn't have to walk on eggshells around that piece of shit! Emotionally and physically

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Shoxfordian · 30/01/2018 05:50

Do you have any family or friends you could go to? Don't wait for a divine intervention! Sort it out yourself

Emy0306 · 30/01/2018 16:34

Don’t know what rl help means ?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 30/01/2018 16:34

Real life

pog100 · 30/01/2018 16:38

it means someone in real life that will listen to you and help. the internet and mumsnet are brilliant but a "real"person helping us even better. even if you are totally isolated talk here, people will help

laura65988 · 07/02/2018 07:44

Don't stay in relationship that makes u this missrable leave and enjoy life u will get benefits go to women's aid they will really help u don't stay cause u don't think u will cope u will get there

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