I have been going through a very painful break up with my exP of 5 years. We lived in the home I owned and had a number of rows about the house. I felt he always expected me to pay for everything; he would say, well it is your house. I wanted to put in a new kitchen for Christmas and said I was paying for it etc. He didn't offer any contribution but kicked up a fuss about the design; he is an electrician and he told me I did not know what I was doing (I did - I've put in 3 kitchens in 3 houses I've owned). Long story short, we split up over this after he was rude and swore at me a number of times in front of my children. He said what the f did I know about kitchens and said it's your house, your money, you do it your f-ing self... So I did. I hired a team of tradesmen. However one of them, started hanging around after hours, asking to have a cup of tea and then kept saying he had to come back and finish this and that... He would never quite finish something and then say he would come back another day to do this bit, that bit. He is a friend of a friend and he knew that I have split from my ex and that I have been devastated by it. He started asking me about my ex and saying bad things about him. Then he started communicating with me by email and text but later in the evenings. I even got a text at 11:30pm last week which made me feel very uncomfortable. He has probably been to my home at least a dozen times since the kitchen was 'finished' to change light bulbs, seal bits and pieces, forgot to drop a certificate. I phoned him last week to say please don't come anymore (you have done more than enough), I can get lightbulbs, he can post certificate... He was a bit strange on the phone. Then he emailed me to say the phone call was painful as his wife was listening, but don't worry, I was safe... This freaked me out. What do I do? I don't want him coming into my home again as clearly his feelings towards me are not healthy. My breakup was very painful and now I feel this man is taking advantage of my vulnerability. I thought he was being kind at first, but now I can see he made excuses to come and I was probably feeding his ego? I don't know but I do feel very vulnerable and a bit scared.