Suggested date but nothing arranged- OLD

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Been chatting to a guy online dating for a week, exchanged numbers and have been massaging a couple times a day, on Thursday he said he would really like to meet up for a drink, I agreed that I was happy to arrange something.

Since then we have continued to exchange a few massages a day but no mention of meeting for a drink.

Obviously I don't want to drag on the chat forever I think it's best to chat if you seem to get on them meet and how it goes but I'm also quite old fashioned and don't want to chase him etc, as he was the one who mentioned it

How long should I give it to get date arranged before I pull the plug and put it down to him just wanting a pen friend

Why can't you just ask him if he's free this coming week and suggest an evening and location?

Life’s too short, OP! Just ask him “when we going for this drink?”

You’ve nothing to lose. If he’s changed his mind, he’ll soon make his excuses.

Erm, yes, why have you not suggested a date and time? I spoke to now dh for a month before I suggested meeting up. We've been together ever since that first date and now it's three and a bit years later. When we reminisced about our brilliant first date - I asked DH, if I had not tied down a date would he ever have got round to it and he admitted probably not - because he liked me so much he was worried about actually meeting being a let down for one or both of us as our online rapport was so good. So there you go. Go for it!!

If you said you were happy to arrange something, he's probably waiting for you to do just that!

You're being silly. Just ask him when you're going on the date

Inging "...have been massaging a couple times a day....."

Honestly think you should skip the drink - seems like a bit of a formality now

ThamesRiver that made me howl!!!

ThamesRiver

You prob right, he said he would like to take me out for a drink sometime and I replied "yeah sure we can arrange something" so maybe I should just say "so when you free for that drink"

Be more specific then it'll be pretty obvious if he's into meeting up. Give him a couple of times when you're free and see what he says. Even if he can't, hopefully he'll suggest alternatives.