Honest opinions- am i being a knob, or is it DP?

[PregnantGrrrl]

Bearing in mind that i did all the night wakings and feeds for the first 7mths with DS, DP has been the one getting up with DS in the mornings for a couple of months- around 5.30-6am normally.

DP's alarm goes off shortly after 6.15am during the week, and i'm finding pregnancy very tiring this time round, so he leaves me in bed for a bit. i can't remember when i was up after 7am last, so we're not talking a lie in here.
We now share night wakings, as i went back to work a month ago and i insisted on this.

Last night, DP said he wanted to sleep in later this morning, so i said fine, but he'd need to kick me out of bed because i'm so tired lately. BUT DP also decided to get pi*sed last night. I put DS to bed, and i couldn't get DP to wake up to do his share in the night, so i saw to DS 5 times. He got up once with him.

This morning he insists on his 'lie-in'
i said that wasn't fair because he hadn't done his fair share, and we should both get up as a compromise. He's sleeping, i've vomited after dealing with DS's dirty morning nappy, and i'm fuming. So, am i being unreasonable? i'm doing my best to not smother DP...

he's being an arse,
but no point both of u getting up. you'll both be tired. best just leave him to get over his hang over and make him feel guilty later! sounds like he's a pretty fab dad most of time though. my dh never did nights.... nor days much tbh!

nah, don't stop yourself, or maybe send ds in....

Obviously you deserve and need as much sleep as you can get, and HE'S definitely being the nob.

Don't buy any more booze.

well, i chucked DS in the bed at 7am and refused to make the sorry looking DP a cup of tea. I think we're even.

well we have a system in our house that if it's your lie-in then you DON'T get up in the night with them........the idea being that if it's your lie-in you deserve a decent long sleep - so it wouldn't bother me personally...but then we alternate lie-ins on a daily basis (so we get a lie-in every other day)......

Sorry, if he had been pissed then there's no way i'd have wanted him up in the night seeing to ds anyway

What age is your ds?

You sound exhausted, is there any chance you can have a nap during the day?

as you have cared for ds in the night, i suggest you take it easy for the rest of the day - dh can make tea, take ds out for an hour whilst you get some well earned rest.
i wouldn't make an issue over him drinking too much if he doesn't usually do it, when the baby arrives there will probably be a time when you'd like to go out for a night out.

we did the same when i was pg with ds2 and still do it now

dp ges up in the morning with the boys, but i deal with the middle of the night stuff.. if i've had a bad night with the boys dp doesn't get his lie in, thats fair, i don't want to be up half the night and get up at 6! f it's his turn for a lie in he has to do the night stuff... even though i have to kick him alot!!

he sounds like a goodun the rest of the time though, so i'd forgive him this once!

I think a one-off like this, is excusable - clearly he is not averse to doing 'his share'.

Sorry you are feeling rough though - it certainly doesnt help matters.

in fairness, i was well annoyed this morning, but felt much better once 1. i had fun playing with DS after i'd vomited. 2. DP looked rough as poop

DS is 10mths.