bit embarassed about discussing this but need a solution...

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hi

im happily engaged to a wonderful guy and we've had a very healthy sexual relationship from the start which was 14mths ago, we can talk quite openly about what we want.
he was my first in terms of sex and love (im 23 hes 24) although he's got plenty of experience. my problem is that i have never climaxed through vaginal intercourse, i do however climax through masturbation with and without my fiancee. he's been great about it, always wanting to please me but i feel bad for him and for me because i know deep down he might think that he's failing as a MAN, IFYKWIM, in not being able to satisfy me. and i on the other hand, feel like a failure too because i feel like theres something wrong with me by not being able to climax.

i do know that this is a common problem. is there a solution? anybody else been through this and willing to share their experience?

i don't think you should think of it as a problem. it's pretty normal.

ok. do you find it easier to reach climax through clitoral stimulation or from internal stimulation?

if you find masturbation easier then i am guessing its clitoral.....well you are in the vast majority here.

my advice would be for you to get on top, dont bob up and down like they do in the films. gently rock back and forward, this allows your clit to rub against your parnter tehrefore giving you the stimulation you require, he gets the satisfaction of entering you, you are totally in control which will please you both.

alternativly try propping your bottom up with a cushion so that your pelvis is tilted, then he can enter you in a missionary style, because your pelvis has tilted your clitoris will be in a postion where it will get the stimulation from his pelvis when he enters you.

OR, buy a vibe! as he enters you the vibe can be used on your clitoris. there are many varieties including ones that he can wear so that he feels as if its him that is stimulatingyou.