Flirting with women

[Sallysaysnonono]

My husband regularly glances / looks at women in passing and it really ticks me off. Is this a common thing?

Yeah common and actually healthy there's not actually anything wrong with looking at someone you may or may not find attractive it's inevitable that you of course are going to find others attractive,but as long as he isn't acting on the attraction I don't see the problem

It just feels awful to me, and he doesn’t try to hide it though. I don’t think he plays away but he does look a lot, more that he would at me!

Looks or ogles? I couldn't tolerate any man ogling anyone but a cursory glance at someone is insignificant and you are putting more meaning into it than there really is.

Nothing wrong with looking, but if it hurts your self esteem, then that's not cool.

Your partner should make you feel good about yourself.

Glancing and looking isn't the same as ogling and flirting. I look at attractive men and women and think. Oh. That's an attractive man or woman. I don't necessarily want to shag them.

My fiancé doesn’t look when I am with him or even glance! Don’t know if he does when I am not with him!

I would be annoyed if dh flirted while I was there. A glance or flirt with a stranger is flattering/fun so I would mind if I am not there. (as I write I realise this sounds weird!) A stranger in a queue at the coffee shop is ok. Woman he sees most days at work is not acceptable.

Although you mention glancing/looking, to me flirting has to be a two way thing so maybe you are misreading him? Or he is leering at people, so not ok.

I would actually find it rude if i was with my partner and he was staring at other women. When I'm not there I wouldn't mind Aslong as it's not acted on but in my face I think is disrespectful.

Yes I think that is it. It is rude.. doing it when I’m not there is one thing but while I am there is very different. I don’t want ds to see it either.

Looking isn't flirting though is it. I look at people as they walk by. Male and female...good looking and average and others .

It depends on if his eyes follow every inch of her body and mouth hangs open...

Men look at other women, and men find other women attractive I guess.

But what narks me off is that these SAME men get really irked and pissy if their wife/girlfriend looks at other men. It's like it's ok for them to look/ogle, but not for their woman to do it. It's a slight on their 'manhood' to see their woman gawping at another man like she fancies him.

So yeah, you are entitled to feel annoyed. Ask him how HE would feel if you stared at and ogled other men? Maybe even try doing it!!!

thank you all. I might bring it up with him. he doesnt oggle, but its more than a glance and it does make me feel bad when he does it, so he should know that. if he still does it then it's different i guess.