Do you think this guy sounds interested or not?

[InterestedOrNot]

I met someone at the gym about a year ago and we get on well in classes. He friend requested me on FB and we have a bit of a chat, etc.

I know he’s single and has been single for ages.

He messaged me a bit out the blue the other day saying he thought I was looking in good shape. We met up for a run before a class today and he said he’d heard I’d split up with my husband and asked me if I was seeing anyone else. To which I said I wasn’t but that husband was being very awkward with the break up and won’t leave the house so it’s all a mess. He said he’d heard from someone else that husband was a total git to me. He said he’d been talking to someone/asking someone about me and my marriage. Then he kind of changed the subject. Then later on he said he thinks I’m lovely. Then we were just talking about gym stuff. I said bye at the end of the class and left

I messaged him later on saying sorry for being slow and he just messaged back and said I wasn’t slow (I was). Just seems that sometimes he says stuff and I think he’s interested but he doesn’t follow it through.

Blimey I sound about 11yo don’t I? Am clueless about men after twenty years of marriage. Sorry.

Maybe when I didn’t ask him if he was still single today he took it that I wasn’t interested?

Problem is I don’t always see him just me and him. We’re often in class and there’s others about so I wouldn’t get the chance to ask him face to face. And it just feels so artificial to message him about it now.

How about this:

Btw when you were quizzing me earlier about my car wreck of a relationship situation I never asked about you. Did x ever fix you and Y up, I remember you said you liked her.

Send that as a message?

Don't send that! Far too keen! Play it cool.

Ooh yes your last message is good to send I think. And goodness, in this day and age is anything down face to face?! I agree, it would be ideal, but messaging online/tinder etc is pretty much how things happen! Your message is casual and YES he's been enquiring about your situ lol so be nosy back and IF he was weird about it (he wont be!!) then well he was nosy first..! This is the kind of thing I would ask my guy friends so you're not putting yourself out on too much of a limb but we are getting closer to the end goal 🙌🏼 Xx

See I’m no good at this! Aggh.

Yeah, he appeared keen with me this morning which I think must have taken some courage for him.

Will have to sleep on it.

If you're living with an ex for 18 months then realistically how do you see this working?

Bide your time and see what he does

No I think if things take off I will somehow have to sort things out sooner. Just no idea how to afford it.

I'm an advocate of sleeping on it! It's ultimately up to you what you want to send but from what I've seen, I can't see you sending anything that sounds too desperate at all 😊

Well I haven't actually slept. Just been awake all night with too much on my mind. Should see him at the gym tonight if I'm fit enough to go

You sound a bit overinvested.

He may have been a little interested, but is taking a massive step back. (understandably)

Are you sure you are even ready to think about dating?

I'd be a bit careful. Some blokes love a newly single soon to be divorcee...they have an idea that if you've been having a shitty time with your husband you'll be gagging for footloose and fancy free sex , which you might well be. No man who wanted a proper relationship would rush into it with a woman still living with her husband. So I'd just wait and see what happens.

I think you're right. Need to distance myself. Thanks.