What would you think if you saw this text?

[WomanEmpire]

Been playing on my mind for a few days, I was on the laptop and DP's iMessage is connected to it. A message from 'X' who he used to work with. I've always thought she was a bit of a CF as he used to tell me that she'd expect lifts home after their shifts and he'd sometimes lie about the way he was going or try and leave before her. To clarify there were 2-3 employees that would do this, not just her.

The message was just passing on a note from a client asking if they could keep in touch since DP left. But the conversation has bits missing. I know this happens on iMessage on the laptop if things have sent as a text, but 6 months ago, he's messaged her the following morning after a work night out saying 'thanks for the chat last night! Even if it wasn't great timing' and she's said 'what was said last night? I was so drunk' and he's replied 'you were pretty much nipping it in the bud. How are you feeling?'

Then there is no more conversation from that day.

What would you make of that? I don't want to go all guns blazing as if it anything dodgy, I need more evidence.

He says he tried not to give her lifts. Doesn't sound like you need to worry! I'd say nipping it in the bud referred to either an illness (going home early, trying to nip this flu in the bud) or a potential hangover

You’ll have to talk to him about what you saw - the context is so important and it there’s missing messages you can’t see that.

If I was feeling very suspicious It might sound like he expressed some feeling for her / made a move and she nipped it in the bud I.e didn’t let it go any further.

But that doesn’t make sense if he tries to avoid before and after that incident. Surely he’d enjoy giving her a lift if he fancied her?

Could be anything. Maybe she has feelings for another colleague and she spoke to your DH about it, and decided to nip it in the bud.

If it was related to some possible blossoming affair then nipping in the bud sounds like it didn't get very far... but after reading this I wouldn't be able to rest until I'd asked what it was about. Do you trust him to be honest if you ask?

Ex DP used to say a girl woman at work annoyed him. Annoyed him so much he slept with her.

I'd be suspicious of the mentionitis if I were you.

Hmmmm I would keep quiet for a while and see if you see any other messages.

The ‘nipping it in the bud’ thing makes it sound like he expressed an interest in her and she put a stop to it. But without a bit more it’s hard to say.
If you mention it now could just mean you don’t find out any more detail.

To be fair all OP knows is that her DH says he tried to avoid giving lifts... she doesn't know that's true. If he was having an affair or almost, that's a good cover to his wife 'oh she's always asking for lifts, seriously sometimes I pretend I'm not going her way just to avoid it!' is a good cover for if his wife finds out he's spent a lot of evenings driving her home after work. He can then say 'yeah she is so cheeky always expecting a lift'

I would have to ask him about it. It's too ambiguous to tell.

And yes the whole ‘oh no I don’t want to give her a lift’ thing could just have been a double bluff.

I don't think you can go all guns blazing - there's not enough there. I'd be curious though - can you find out anymore if this was 6 months ago?

Don't ask him he's not gonna admit to anything. I would keep an eye on things though.